we have tried to get joint or full custody, we have filed reports to child protection. we have filed reports with on and off reserve mcfd,(we are all first nations, except their son who looks caucasian) the bm lives on reserve, my spouse and I live off reserve. the on reserve mcfd are lazy, careless, few of the social workers in there are horrible parents/step-parents. my spouse was refused joint and full custody, I had to really talk him into applying for it. hes scared and intimadated of bm and her family. I had to tell him to make reports for his sons safety, my spouse is scared to take any kind of action with bm, as shes always making threats, of keeping their son away, taking him to court again, changing their sons last name to her last name. she was awarded full custody and full guardianship, which confuses me bm wanted my spouse stay in his life and pay child support, I thought if u ask for that, u basically dont want anything from or anything to do with the other parent? she did this behind his back, filed for custody, lied to the judge and her lawyer, saying she had my spouse served with the papers, he received the papers after court, she lied to my spouse, told him to be at court on such n such date, he went, she wasnt there, he went to registry, they told him it was dealt with, and gave him a hard time for not showing up if he wanted access or joint, full custody. now I keep trying to report bm to mcfd, nothing happens, bm always appears innocent, kind, civil, n she always has explanations ready, saying it was a cat, her sons cousin(same age/ household) hit him, scratched him, denies the drinking, appears be a good mom, works, home all time, they believe and on reserve told us they cant do much on a 3rd party report would have to come fr 1st n 2nd party for them to take action. bm lives w/ her parents and couple of her siblings has all of them wiping her @&$, they wouldnt report her. so my spouse and I have never known whats best, we can never win, get anywhere w/ legal system, we've thot of staying away, tried it, too hard on ss and my spouse, and every week its random days, bm drinks any day of the week, she has very active party/ social life so basically she treats my spouse, her family, my spouses family as last minute sitters, flips out if they dont take him, I dontknow what my spouse or I should do, very difficult situation, always has been and always will be, bm seems to have severe mental problems

and our lastest drama and bs is, I confronted bm about getting a paternity test, I realize and understand it wasnt my place or my business, but im getting so sick of all this drama. bm went crying to my spouses family, theyre all furious w/ me and my spouse. bm has been getting my spouses family against me from when she learned of us, being back together, and they were broken up for 3-4 months she didnt allow my spouse to see their son until she found out about me, bms bn tryn to order my spouse to leave me, she said she'll allow any1 but me, she makes up lies, rumours to her friends, her family and my spouses family they all believe her and my spouses family has never liked or accepted me based solely on her lies. so now bm and my spouses brother and his brothers gf are all threatening to beat me up. ive gone to the police and asked for a peace bond, doesnt look like it could happen. bm painted picture to police shes the victim im just a mean jealous gf, that hates her and her son. I dont hate her son, ive admitted its hard to accept him, I get annoyed w/ him but I dont hate him, wouldnt hurt or harm him, she does tho. should I let my spouse go for his sons sake? or just stay completely out of it?