Can't help but be excited
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So huge blowout between me and SS18. I told him that he needs to be a man and step up and just get over everything and move on. He said no he has no interest what so ever and continued to type away on facebook.
I have 5 more months till he goes to college and SD15 is supposed to move in with her dad in the summer. So it will just be me and soon to be wife and my daughter who is 8.
I feel bad for my fiancee who's kids are moving out, I told her that they have made choices that she cannot correct. In addition her ex is such a ASS. He has done nothing but derail every attempt at discipline and establishing rules in the house.
I almost want to put up a count down calendar on the fridge!
I think I'd be worried, not
I think I'd be worried, not excited. Her daughter is moving out while your daughter is staying. I would be worried about her resenting my child.
I can't imagine having my minor child leave my home while my SO's minor child stays. I just don't have it in me to play happy family with a man and his kids while losing my own.
All of the above. As soon as
All of the above. As soon as those kids are gone, you are going to be happy, she will see you're happy, she will know it's because they're gone, you will pay.
Soooo. Try to show a little tiny bit of sorrow :O Fake it if you must. Put yourself in her place. She's human and a mom. Regardless of how horrible her kids are, she loves them. We all do. My kids have been forgiven for some pretty rotten shit. I look at my son and still see the little three year old handing me dead flowers from the yard. My husband sees a huge 22 year old man who could probably kick his ass. FAKE SADNESS, at least for a while. Play off her lead.
I don't think any guy who is
I don't think any guy who is seeking answers through blogs is going to be the bully-macho type "jockeying the son to be the alpha male.."
Just doesn't seem the type. I've read his posts.
I agree that we can't seem to
I agree that we can't seem to happy when the misery that is our household moves on to live with the other parent. But, inside we can definitely do a "happy dance". We just have to be careful what we say or do with our spouse. For me, it was giving SD's room a year before I started making comments about it being real estate and had value and we should move SS13 in there since it was a bigger room and gave him more privacy. Since we had sacrificed one to save the other we owed it to him. Took about 6 months to get DH to get him moved in and her packed up...
Just tread cautiously, because no matter what happens it will be your fault they are gone. Trust me on this, it came up several times after in arguments about BM and SD that I wanted this and now I got it...Not true, but I can see how he got there and given that BM and SD made me out to be the devil himself, I didn't stand a chance.
Yes, make it stick. Whatever
Yes, make it stick. Whatever space they filled, fill it up with something quickly when they leave! My ss room sat for a YEAR! He would come home from college on the weekends and pick right back where he left off. Finally, I stripped it and painted and moved his crap to the basement. Hubby pouted the whole time. All the others moved out and it didn't bother him that I took their rooms, the same day! Fill the space!!!