SK12 is constantly, and I mean CONSTANTLY having issues with his peers and it's NEVER his fault or because of anything HE does.. yea right!

I have been around this kid for 4 years and I can truthfully say that he gets into these situations because of his mouth and how he is just socially inept...

He's one of those kids that tries to be cool by saying things like "that's epic" or quoting family guy "what the deuce?" or just saying dumb weird shit all the time - like constantly and at the wrong times.. He is obnoxiously loud when he talks and has to laugh louder than anyone to get attention. He is just socially awkward. He also tries to act like a hard ass wanna be, runs his mouth and tries to hang out with those kinds of kids - who in return treat him like shit and don't really want to be his friend..

Every so often he will get into a scuffle at school or something.. and of course it's never anything he did wrong.. nothing he did to cause it.. I hear "his' side of the story and I'm sitting here thinking to myself "there's gotta be more to it than that"..

DH always buys it - and never asks questions about what lead up to it, or why would these kids all of a sudden just go after you?

Well, last night SK12 comes home from football and of course there is a story about how these kids were mean to him and he got into a verbal altercation and they cussed at him... blah blah blah..

Never mind that SK12 is lazy and doesn't even try at practice - DH had to leave after 10 minutes of watching him every night this week because the kid is just not participating, is constantly last and messes up all the time.. He just does not try or pay attention.

This is more than likely the reason for the altercation - his team mates more than likely got fed up with his laziness and called him out on it. SK12 didn't like it and mouthed off and things got ugly..

I do feel bad for sk12, don't get me wrong.. but he needs to learn a better way to handle things and not try to fit in by trying to be someone he isn't.. Like if his team mates say something to him about being slow or whatever.. then he needs to try to be humble and suck it up.. not be a dick and defensive (which is exactly who he is and how he responds). Realize you are on a team and when you let your team mates down and don't pull your weight, pay attention or mess something up you need to own up to and accept that it affects them.

DH tried to talk to him last night and as usual, he just isn't real with him. He asked me to talk to him and I told him I wanted to hold off and let things sit for a while.. For starters, sk12 and I do not have a good relationship and he was in a foul mood - the last thing he would want to do is talk to me. Plus I'm sick of this happening and no one is ever real with him about it.

My thing is this.. if Dh truly wants me to talk to him then I'm going to be real with him and it will probably piss him off. I told Dh this last night and he really didn't object or agree with this tactic.. kinda left me hanging.

I am hesitant to get involved.. one part of me wants to try to kindly give sk12 advice, but at the same time say he needs to take a look at himself and see what he could be doing to cause these situations because every time it isn't always the other persons fault.

Unfortunately, SK12 never takes any responsibility for his crap and I just know this won't go well when I get to the part about accountability... an argument will probably ensue and he will get pissed and start mouthing and raising his voice (he thinks its ok to yell at adults - we are working on this, but it is a major uphill battle).. thus putting me in the position to now have to tell sk12 to stop yelling and possibly send him to his room/discipline him for being an asshole to someone who is only trying to help him..

Can you tell I have been down this road before with this kid? I have tried to help him and be real with him in the past about crap and he just has excuse after excuse and I get sick of it and refuse to enable him, so it turns into a fight.

Should I even bother?

Advice?