My SD11 decided a few weeks ago that I am an evil step-mom, she's not comfortable around me, and we don't get along. Nothing is farther from the truth; we're actually very close. I think she resents how close we are and is blaming me for not being that close to her BM (as if I were in the way and the reason they never really bonded-NOT HARDLY!). She has always split her time 50/50 between BM and BD. She wants to live with her mom full time now and see us on weekends. We decided to try counceling. The counselor suggested we let SD try living with BM, so we did. She's at BMs house now, but it doesn't feel right. Obviously there are things going on with her (and she's not opening up to ANY of us). Did we do the right thing by letting her feel validated and be where she says she's comfortable? Or did we just get played by an 11 year old starting a rebellion?