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BeautyQueen's picture

I have been married to my Husband for 3 yrs. his ex wife has tried to make our marriage a living hell with her evil daughters. The 17 yr old lived with us for 9 months until her dad got judge to put her out. She threaten to beat me up and almost hit me in the face, her mom told her she don't have to speak to me in my own home. His oldest daughter with ex wife was very did restful as well by cursing me out thru text messages. Calling me the B**ch word and other nasty things. All because I demanded rules, stability in my home. They were use to doing whatever they want before I came. So now I'm the bad one because their dad backed me up with the rules a d the showing me respect. Please know I have not been mean to them. I tried getting along even went as far to apologize to the oldest one even tho I did nothing wrong. There mom has played a big part in this but they are 17 & 23 to make judgement for themselves. Well their dad is going to be 50 soon and I want to give him a dinner at my house. Do I exclude them or invite? 16 yr old still has not apologize for cursing me out in my home and for threatening me. Her dad calked the cops that day it happen. I want to do the right thing. Even 2 weeks ago I saw 17 yr at her brother football game and she spoke to her dad and didnt even say hello or still no apology. Her 14 yr old brother lives with us and we have no problems at all. He's very respectful. Any comments please will help. It's a long story. You would think these grown girls would get over it by now. I have kept my mouth shut for 3 yrs.

BeautyQueen's picture

Lol thank you. I was just thinking of hubby since its his day but he understands

BeautyQueen's picture

Thank you and I appreciate your comment. So sorry you had to go thru that. its so sad. My husband tried to make them acknowledge me but I think some of his actions played part in it as well thinking it would help but made it worse. It's best for me to disengage myself as well and thats what I have been doing since he's daughter was kicked out. I go to footballs games because he invite me and to support his son who is very respectful to me. The 17 yr old totally ignore me when she see me there. The older one speak because her dad is there but its very cold. I expect the behavior but I ignore them. I have accepted they don't want any part of me but I refuse to let them come in my house and don't speak. So they stay away and he visits them wherever and whenever he want as long as I got my peace and quiet in my home. He understands and backs me totally. Again thanks for your comment it helped more than you know Smile

BeautyQueen's picture

Thank you for your response. I friend suggested same as you did. An adult party. At this point now I really don't care. I have been disrespected enough. The 22 yr old did apologize but since I put her 17 year old sister out and vp called the cops on her because she threaten me, that's when she got cold with her hello. So it is what it is. Thanks again

BeautyQueen's picture

Lol

TakemySKIDS's picture

Don't invite them. They are old enough to organise something for their dad that you the B****c hasn't organised. If they complain, you say...well, hold on I thought I was too much of a bi***c and you wouldn't enjoy it.

Rags's picture

I go with the "Hell No!!" you don't invite them crowd.

And throw in a ......

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~~~~~~~~~~~~~ Stolen from Máirín above.

At the toxic SDs.

Toxic semi adults do not get included in festivities with a family that they are disrespectful of even when it is their dad that is the focus of the celebration.

Your DH is a true man of character for holding his toxic spawn accountable for their bullshit behavior.

Happy B-day to your DH. If his turn at 50 is as awesome as mine has been this year he is in for an amazing year. Having an amazing bride will sure help. It has been the key to my amazing turn at 50.

Take care of yourself through all of this.