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Husband favors his daughter over my children

sailingflyingd's picture

I need some guidance here. My husband's daughter (8) went to Europe for the summer with her Mother and she shares a room with my daughter (7). While his daughter has been gone I have been letting my two sons (7) and (9) sleep in her bed. My husband comments back to me "I don't want your sons sleeping in my daughter's bed and get their stinky socks and P**ss all over her bed while she is gone". First, the bed is covered with a mattress protector and second the children, not being in school, like to sleep in the same room together and that is the only bedroom with two beds. I told my husband he was being unreasonable and putting his and his daughter's unreasonable needs in front of mine and my children -- I mean who cares its just a bed -- and his daughter's stuff was packed away over the closet for the summer.
Then issue no. 2, when his daughter comes back next week he wants to take her to Busch Gardens -- just he and her for a few nights. This is after he complains that we spend too much money and that he is just getting by with the money that he is making. Also, in order to not make his life hard, I have my children in camp for two weeks so they don't crawl all over him and his daughter when she returns -- and that is costing me $300 over and above what I would have paid for that two weeks.
To all of this -- what do I get? Nasty emails: "I would like to make the other room into erikas room if you are charging me the money you are charging me and also if the boys feel they can sleep and piss in my daughters bed. And nothing happens

I feel like fuck erikas space bed posesions fuck marks stuff and sobriety. Fuck the ********s.

As lon as all the ****** get what they want fuck everyone else.

You said I cant go for a overnoight trip with Erika this is bullshitn when you are buying toys having parties im not your employee niger bitch hang my ptcure fix this fix that do this do that do what I say do tonly this list of things with Erika"

Does anyone have advice for me? He usually doesn't cuss like the above but this is the email I received this morning because my two boys (7) and (9) were sleeping in his princess's bed that happens to be in my daughter's room.

Am I the one being unreasonable? Am I not respecting his feelings?
He was also complaining that my 7 year old son lost a part to his toy car 3 1/2 weeks ago and now he ca't build his model car unless he orders a new part -- This was 3 weeks ago and I heard about it then and didn't want to hear about it again and that go me angry too.
I really really need advice or insight!!

smdh's picture

Throw him out NOW. Whether he is being reasonable or not (and I think he is when it comes to his kid's bed) is irrelevant. NOONE should be allowed to call you names like that EVER. Are you not respecting his feelings? What about your feelings? He said some really, really terrible things to you and about you and you're worried about HIS feelings?

JEEMudder's picture

^^^INDEED

Run with your kids for their sake. That is abusive! What kind of role model do you want for your kids?

momagainfor4's picture

You need to kick him out. OMG, if my bf sent me an email like that..he better be on crack or something cause no one get's to talk to me like that.
You are teaching your kids that it's ok for them to be 2nd best to Miss Princess Entitlement.
Your kids will never be anything to him. He can't stand them obviously. I'm not sure he even likes you!!!

Please get this negative force out of your lives while you can and before he does too much emotional damage.
He's telling you this.. you aren't listening.

BSgoinon's picture

This whole post make me sick to my stomach. It sounds more like conversations between a divorced couple than people that are supposed to LOVE each other. What are you doing with him??

Disneyfan's picture

I agree with what he wants (SKs to stay out his daughter's bed, to spend time alone with his daughter) but the way he spoke to you is out of line.

I'm with the others. It's time to send him and his kid out the door.