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At_wits_end's picture

I'm new here and didt know where else to turn. I have two biological kids and three stepkids two girls and a boy. My two stepdaughters don't give me any problems it's the 16 y/o stepson that's the problem. He has no respect for me or anyone else. He is making my life a living hell. He has a foul mouth and is very confrontational whenever things don't go his way he whines like a baby and get mouthy. He can't stay out of troubleskips school does drugs steals stays out all hours of the night and just thinks he runs things. I've tried talking to him but to no avail. Tried talking to my wife but she refuses to do anything and would rather wait til he's 18 so he could just move out I don't think I can make it that long. Him and I got in an argument last night cuz he pushed my daughter and my wife snapped on me like it was my fault. He treats her the same way but instead of doing something to correct the situation she let's him do what ever cuz she doesn't want to hear his mouth and like I told her the last time I checked you where the parent. His two sisters aren't angels they do their fair share of stuff but they have never treated us the way he does. I told my wife maybe hr needs to be put out of out house he can go stay with his dad which is where he was when we took him in. But she says she can't turn her back on him. But I try to explain to her it's not turning your back on him if he wants to come over and visits you that's fine he just can't stay here. Of course that went in one ear and out the other. I just don't know what else to do my sanity I'd hanging by a thread and I feel like I'm gonna lose it. Also I'm starting to think the best thing I can do is leave and call it quits.

stepmasochist's picture

Ugh, what a mess. If your wife refuses to step up and parent her out of control teen son, I think the best thing to do would be throw up your hands and high tail it out of there.

Have you expressed how done you are with the situation to her? I'm not a fan of giving ultimatums, but it sounds like your situation has gone too far. You've encountered a deal-breaker. Let her know how you feel. Tell her if she refuses to parent him in the hopes he'll just go away and everything will be fine when he turns 18, then maybe you'll have to go away until that happens.