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Southern Step Mommy's picture

My husband of one year has decided that we must travel to his mother’s house to visit his biological children every other weekend. We live two hours away and have a nice home. It’s only three year’s old and three levels. However, his biological children have stated that it’s too far of a drive for them (ages 12, 11 and 5). They feel tired and don’t like to ride in the car that long. I’m a Teacher who wants to come home on the weekends, relax and take care of my needs. I feel like an outsider in my own marriage, that’s being dictated by my step children. I think this request is coming from their biological mother who doesn’t really want them to blend with their new family. My husband does whatever they ask. What should I say to him? I’m I just being selfish? Please help.

Purpleflower09's picture

Who says you have to go all the time? maybe just go once a month.

" Faith is a bird that feels dawn breaking and sings while it's still dark"-R.Tagore

Kb3Hooah's picture

What does the CO state about visitation and transportation to and from?

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JustAnotherSM's picture

When DH and I got our first apartment together, we moved about 2 hours away from SS for a new job. SS was only 5 at the time. We did give up seeing him every weekend and settled on every other weekend because the trips were long, but we never considered visitation at grandma's even though she still lived near SS. SS adjusted very quickly to the long car rides. We used to have the best conversations in the car! Of course, that was long before kids had to have all of these electronic gadgets to entertain them. Wink

I hope this is a temporary solution and DH encourages the skids to visit your new home soon.