I feel awful, but I don't like my boyfriend's daughter (she's 6). I myself have a 4 year old son. We have been talking about getting engaged and I feel like maybe we shouldn't since I not particularly fond of her. She is for the most part well-behaved, smart, musical...and yet I just don't really like her. For one, I feel like whenever I'm around she hangs on my BF and I understand that she's used to having him all to herself. Ultimately I don't want to feel like I need to compete for attention. I will always yield to a child, since I understand that this must be difficult for her. On the inside though, I feel jealous! Isn't that absurd? Then I feel guilty for feeling jealous of a 6 year old. Additionally, she has on a few occasions reminded me that I am not her mother (once for telling her not to play around the hot stove & once for saying she couldn't bring a large stick in the car with us)...which again, i understand is normal for a child to do, but it hurts a bit nonetheless. I find myself dreading weekends when the 4 of us get together. She also has a habit of crying a lot...my son doesn't really do this so I don't really know what to make of it. A couple of weeks ago she wanted to practice riding her bike without her training wheels and my BF proceeded to help her try to do it. She, of course, couldn't stay up long...and bawled after each attempt. This happened at least 7-10 times in a period of 20 minutes. I can't recall a visit I've had with her where she didn't cry and mope at least once. I understand this is probably a function of how she deals with stress...and again I don't want to sound harsh...but I don't enjoy being around high drama or emotionally charged situations...so most of the time I would rather not spend time with my BF if she is around. Which causes a major problem when thinking about getting married. I guess I'm just wondering if this kind of thing changes? As it now stands, I don't love her...and I don't know if I ever will. Would it even be wise to marry her father under these conditions? The worst part is I wish and have tried to change how i feel...any suggestions are welcome. Thanks.