The issues I have going on right now, could fill a book. I don't have any biological children, which is a constant issues that seems to be rising lately among the family. The wife and I have been married since late April.

My nephew is 10, two years younger than my SS. His mother abandoned him with my parents almost from birth, so the only home he's known has been one my parents have provided. The only male role models have been my father and I. With my father's passing, I am left to be the male role model. As a single man, I would leave work at night to go to my parents home to spend time with the nephew. The evenings would be there, before I would return to my own home, to prepare for the next work day. For ten years, this was the norm.

With my father's passing, my sister has finally decided she's capable, and willing, to be a mother. However my established relationship with my nephew is something she can't seem to tolerate, especially with my new wife in the picture. As a standard course of life, I would take my nephew everywhere with me, as though he were my own son. So naturally, the wife would include him in our family activities. He's become closer to my SS and SD as a result.

My Nephew has always had abandonment issues, because of his parents.

All of this has put a strain on my own family now. My sister and wife have become mortal enemies, because on one hand, we have the single mother who sacrificed everything for her children and kept them with her through thick and thin; and we have the mother who abandoned her son and didn't look back until recently.

My sister has routinely told me that I am not my nephew's father, and that as a step-father, I'm not a real father, and that I would never know what she feels for my nephew.

My wife, argues that my nephew is the son I 'wish' I had, and frets that my SS is not enough for me, because I don't have biological children. She claims that I put my nephew's interests before our own kids, simply because I worry about a proposed move to Texas.

That's the cliff notes version of events, because I know these forum posts can turn into full length novels if we're not careful.

I'm frightened for my nephew's well-being. I fear that my sister is not stable, and that my mother still grieving my father, is glossing over my sister's issues. If I leave my nephew and move to Texas, I worry what that will do to him psychologically, given how close we've been for a decade.

I feel like I'm being torn in half, and that I can't please anyone, except for my SD. She's taken to calling me daddy when my SS still refers to me by my first name.