Ugh, so where can I even start? Well, about a year ago I met my boyfriend. We worked for the same company but he worked in another state and was temporarily sent to my division to help train new hires and so on. The first time he and I had a "date" tho I viewed it as just dinner between co-workers, we talked about a LOT of things. My kids, his kid, my crazy ex, his current (but soon to be ex unbeknown to her it appeared) and so on. He explained to me that he had been in this relationship with this woman that he never developed feelings for, didn't even sleep with her anymore and just basically couldn't stand her and was just "there for his kid" (which I think is a terrible excuse) and that he was planning on "riding solo" for a good while after the "break up" but he was waiting until he went home to break it off because he prefers to have serious conversations face to face. He told me that the last straw with him came when she started trying to have herself declared disabled because she was "so bi-polar" and couldn't work. Now from what he told me, this woman didn't cook, didn't clean, didn't do laundry, pay bills or even take care of their child. She worked off and on, came home and would fall asleep on the couch and that was that. So that what whatever. I mean I did like him (a lot)but he was from another state and who knows how long he would be in my division and blah blah blah so we just hung out and had fun. Well that weekend I was planning on going to a local club and asked if he wanted to come along since we had so much fun the time before......only as friends, I expected nothing. He told me that between our first "hang out session" and the club night, the BM had pretty much forced him to tell her over the phone what was going on, and he did and broke up with her. Well the friendship kinda moved to a little more after that BUT again I was not trying to get into a relationship because of the fact that I didn't know how long he would be around. Even tho we got along so great and we were almost cut from the same fabric, I kept enough of a distance emotionally to not get too attached. Well long story short, I got attached, HE got attached and we fell in love..........scary.

So once again, the question kept coming up pf what would we do when he STOPPED working in my state....he finally asked me to move to his home state with him to which I needed time to REALLY think about for myself and my own kids. After several weeks of thought and realizing that this was the kindest most loving person that made me the happiest I have EVER been, I agreed to move. He assured me that things with the EX were good, she moved out, moved on and even told HIM that the break up was what was "best". And me, the person that usually walks into ALL situations very guarded, was so blinded by love that I let that guard down and moved without a care in the world! I had the love of my life, there would be NO DRAMA and I could finally have my happiness that I searched for for so long........well it didn't take long to realize (thanx to the ex) that I was F N delusional!!!

At the time I moved my boyfriend was working 28 days on and 28 days off, so it was on his days off that he moved me to his state. The DAY we arrive and start unpacking the truck the EX shows up......to drop the kid off. Not only does she show up out of the blue no call or anything, she WALKS right into my house checking it (and me) out. Well I let that one slide, the door WAS open from all the people coming in and out.....but after that she CONTINUED to walk into my house without so much as a freakin KNOCK! I quickly realized that she was NOT "over it" as she had said and felt like because she had that kid she is ENTITLED to something!! I brought this to my boyfriend's attention on MORE than one occasion but idk if he didn't believe me for some reason or because he just couldn't see her doing it or whatever. I got to the point that she would not only walk INTO my home, she would sit on my furniture, pet my dog and scope out my sh*t....I started to think SOON she was gonna ask me to make her a sandwich or something. Well thank GOD finally someone else, who had SEEN her just walk into my house TOLD my boyfriend that it was happening......THEN he believed me, apologized to me and told her NOT to do that. She was crowding me every chance she got! I mean, my boyfriend's parent live a stone's throw away and I couldn't/wouldn't go to THEIR house to visit because his EX was ALWAYS there!! She was even spending the night at his parent's home and he had NO IDEA this was going on while he was away at work! I had to tell him. And she was always there because the KID was always there. My boyfriend's parents kept the kid 5 nights out of 7 while she worked. Which I found strange because 6 months prior to my moving down she was "so bi-polar" she needed to be disabled! But she was trying to maintain a presence in his life in ANY way that she could...and if it couldn't be with him, then she'll do it through his parents.

So there was that weirdness, then she started calling my HOUSE!! She ALWAYS called his cell when it came to the kid but one night her number came across my house phone.....I was FURIOUS and told him that she needed to LOSE my house number. Anything having to do with the child she can call his cell, like its ALWAYS been. The next night, she calls my house again....at this point I knew she was just being a twisted b*tch and when he hung up I asked WHY did she call the house again. According to HER, she called the house cuz he never answered her text.....his phone was in the living room at the time so I immediately jumped out of bed and retrieved the phone....low and behold, NO TEXT MESSAGE!! And I said to him "NOW so you SEE that she's playing games"? He agreed and when she called the house a friggen THIRD time, in 2 days......he told her to ONLY call his cell and I blocked her number.

So its been going on and on and on with her petty nit picky b/s and yet my boyfriend is upset cuz i can't get settled in, well DUH, wonder why!! I've been on EDGE since I got here because of this lunatic EX!

So finally the twisted ex started banging a recruiter who convinced her (manipulated more like) to join the National Guard. I just wonder if he KNEW she was trying to be declared disabled due to being bi-polar 8 months earlier. BUT, who cares, she left for basic training.....YAY!! Funny thing about THIS is that the entire time she was AROUND (literally 10 miles away), and he was working, his parents watched the kid, all of a sudden she leaves for basic training and now I'M expected to keep this kid when he goes to work??? OH HELL NO!! I resented that so much because I can't stand the kid for one, he's spoiled rotten and an undisciplined little troll and TWO, why should I do something they don't even expect the kids own MOTHER to do?? F THAT NOISE!!

Anyway, she's been gone a month now and I haven't been happier or more "settled". The only problem is that I know, without a doubt that she will start her crap as soon as she gets back. We fight because he says that he "doesn't care about her" and "she can't get to him because he has me and he's happy and what we have is special" and that HE "can't understand why I let her get to me".....well SORRY love, we aren't ALL the same and we don't all handle things the same!! And he just can't get that....

The most recent incident was when I was at his parent's house yesterday and noticed a brand new picture of my boyfriend's son on their entertainment center. Which a new picture of their grandson wouldn't have been bad if SHE wasn't in the picture as well!! Again, she is trying to maintain a presence IN THIS FAMILY!! And I just found this utterly TACKY of her......It would be like me saying "I wonder if SHE'D like an invitation to our wedding".......TACKY!! Especially since I would be marrying the man that was supposed to be HER "happily ever after" But I told him, as long as SHE is present, I can't and won't be! You can NOT have 3 people in a relationship! And if SHE insists on staying in, and his family allows that, then I will have no choice but to remove MYSELF permanently and NOT just from his parent's lives which I have already done for the most part!!

Whew........so THERE'S my psycho ex story!!