Hey, this is my first post here. I could really use some help. I am married to my husband for 6 months now, together 14 months, known each other/ been good friends for going on 6 years. I have a 5 yr old SS. His mother is the worst kind of manipulator/ crazy. She is diagnosed Bipolar, and unmedicated/treated, in May we had to file for custody when my SS witnessed an assault in his mother's home. She was on drugs, my SS talked about seeing her do hallucinogenic mushrooms, cocaine, weed, (Though my opinion on weed is IDC it makes her calmer.) Anyways, she seemed to really clean up after custody was filed with the courts, the sores on her face disappeared, she decided to be nice to me and stop telling her son I beat him as an infant (SERIOUSLY??), started school, and got a job. It wasn't long before my SS was a whole different and happier child. He used to be creul to me. Last week the judge signed our agreement. We decided to not go for sole and agreed to 50/50 joint custody. Too bad in the last few weeks her sores have returned and my SS has been a terror once again. And, now has picked up self-harm type behaviors for example biting himself and screaming he hates himself, when he was told he had to say Thank you to get his candy. But, now the custody is set in stone, and no matter how much I know in my gut she is back on drugs, the worker I talked to at DHS said I don't have enough to get her drug tested. What do I do? This BM is crazy!!!! And, if it wasn't bad enough my SS had to deal with her unstable mental/emotional states, he is now hurting himself. What do I do?? I do have an appt set up for a therapist, but won't be seen until mid-January. What do I do? It tears me apart to give him back every week knowing what he is going home to.