Putting Your Child On Facebook
BM has put the boys on FB.
They do not live with her all year. She said she made their profiles safe to predators.
"It is so that family can keep in touch with them."
They have cell phones. Family CALLS them like the rest of society. It's not like the family he doesn't see is well traveled. They are all located in one hick town.
The boys do not get online that much in the first place. They are 9 and 11. They still play with legos and swim in the pool no matter what season. At most, they do those online math games and logic problems.
I just lost it - I haven't been this angry with her in a very long time. I am shaking with rage and I can't seem to calm down. Hence I came here.
DH is away for the next two weeks with work. I haven't told him yet. I only found out because they became friend suggestions.
Am I being overprotective and ignorant or do I have ample reason to be full of rage?
How many parents do this? Why would you?
I think that if the parent is
I think that if the parent is in control of the profile, and monitors the activity, and makes the profile limited so only friends & family can see the profile, then that's ok. But if the profile is set so anyone, including criminals, can see it, that is a problem.
Do BM and the kids know people who live far away?
That's the thing. ANYONE can
That's the thing. ANYONE can send a message - so if a freak wants to send some totally perverse picture he can. Or perverse statements. MY family lives far away and the skids do not have friends far away.
My little sister (age 8 ) has
My little sister (age 8 ) has a facebook with a relationship status "it's complicated" although I laughed my ass off when I read that, I truly think it is not acceptable. I wouldn't let BS/SD have a facebook until they are the age facebook requires them to be (duh!)
Wow. That IS funny but yeah
Wow. That IS funny but yeah age 8 is kind of creepy. Do you think it is making her grow up faster than she needs to?
I don't think is necessarily
I don't think is necessarily THAT serious, she goes on facebook perhaps like once a week and my mom and my older sister both have the password of her fb. But I still don't think is right, she would add anybody that sends her a friend request because she is THAT friendly, and because she is not mature enough to realize the dangers of adding strangers. If a site is not meant to be for under a certain age, why would you let your child be part of it? There is a reason why the creators chose the age level. I'm sure my mom/sister don't check her facebook on a daily basis. It wouldn't take long for someone to add her, ask for her address, where she goes to school and get all her info. She will provide all that info FOR SURE!!!
THANK YOU! And THAT is one
THANK YOU! And THAT is one HUGE fear I have. Among many.
Nobody said STEP Parenting would be this frightening.
You can send an email to
You can send an email to Facebook and they will remove it. It is actually a violation. It says 13 on the site. Do it and they will remove it in a day.
Do I have to prove I am
Do I have to prove I am related and have the right to do this or is it something DH has to do? If that is the case, can I email FB and have BM removed completely from FB too while I am at it?
I don't know if you can have
I don't know if you can have BM removed. However, I know a lot of people who have reported kids under 13 to the head honchos at FB who aren't their biological parents or related to them in any way.
Just a random guess, but
Just a random guess, but perhaps she made it to share pictures and things they have done with other relatives more easy? It sounds like she made it more for herself than the kids. but yeah I agree that accepting just anyone is a bad idea. she should strictly limit it to friends and family. I think you should tell your husband right away though, so that he can talk to her about not giving out information to strangers and to only accept people they know. putting them in danger like that is for sure a valid reason to be furious in my opinion.
My boyfriends ex made there 3 year old a face book, but for an entirely different reason. he had deleted her from both FB and myspace. and shes one to start problems always, sense he refused to add her as her self, she made there sons, cause she knew he would not deny his sons page. I just don't see how he doesn't realise that she did it to keep tabs on him. Its like everyone knows what shes doing except him, and it always causes a world of problems.