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Submitted by Harthos on Wed, 07/05/2017 - 8:28am

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First off, hey all.

So, I just got married about a year ago. My wife has two girls that live with me. Their dad "Mr dumb@" as I call him, has the kids two weekends a month.

The issue I want to talk about right now, is his "whatever-she-is". Don't know or care what she is, but I know he's her bitch, which makes things really fun when the two stepdaughters come home and I start acting like a man.
Here's what's so messed up: they go to her house, and get taken to all these events and activities and they don't even get to do anything but just watch. And even worse, our girls are perfectly fine with it. Just like thier princess of a father. Heck, they think she's the greatest thing sense rising bread.

And then, I'm not supposed to say anything against that. Heck, I'm not allowed to have opinions, at all. Not sure how I'm supposed to invest in them and thier situations (or anything else in life, for that matter ) and not have opinions.
Personally, I think the kids (and thier mom, my wife, ) have Stockholm Syndrome. It just sucks being the only one I know of that's not scared of her. Maybe if I show everyone that she bleeds, they will realize she's not a goddess.

Dangit! There I go again, having an opinion. Anyone have advice on purging myself of the need to have opinions on life?

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Submitted by Acratopotes on Wed, 07/05/2017 - 8:55am

These girls are not your children, you are simply married to their mother and they do have a father, what their father does on his time with them... nothing to do with you, how their SM treats them... nothing to do with you.

Nwver speak ill about the father or the SM.. think what you want but keep your lips shut

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Submitted by Acratopotes on Wed, 07/05/2017 - 9:20am

who pissed you off this morning lady.....

not enough sleep... too much wine, missed me too much yesterday... MIL ambush.... skids coming over...

spill the beans waiting for you blog

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Submitted by Disneyfan on Wed, 07/05/2017 - 9:17am

So dad's new SO takes the kids to events. The kids sit around and watch these events. The do not complain one bit about sitting around and watching these events. The kids actually LIKE this lady.

Dad is fine with the way things are.
Mom is fine with the way things are.
The kids are fine with the way things are.
Since the GF keeps taking the girls to these events, she must be fine with the way things are

The only one bitching and looking to stir up trouble is YOU. I think you gave the name Mr. Dumb Ass to the wrong man in this situation

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Submitted by Harthos on Wed, 07/05/2017 - 9:23am

No, the real mom is NOT ok with it. She is just scared of the girlfriend
(and fyi, she is not "new" he has been with her sense before he and my wife got divorced)
Thing is, when she talks about it, I am not allowed to give any input.

I guess I am one of those asshols who hates to see people enjoying being mistreated. I must have been born a few centuries (or milinia) too late.

I am also against child trafficking, even when the child ENJOYS their "owner" But technically, that too, is having an opinion. My bad

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Submitted by Acratopotes on Wed, 07/05/2017 - 9:30am

No your wife is a GUBM who does not want to see her kids happy in SM's life. Your wife is blaming this woman for the divorce and she wants her daughters to know it.. thus PAS'ing them against their father.

Your wife is doing it all to herself, it's not the SM who's mistreating your wife, she's actually doing her a favor in making sure the kids are happy and enjoying life... Your wife needs to understand she will be the only bio mother but her daughters may like the SM...

WTF to your last sentence... you are one sick puppy

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Submitted by Disneyfan on Wed, 07/05/2017 - 9:48am

Based on what you posted, the girls are not being mistreated.

They are teenagers. If they were not happy with what is going on, they would have said something to their father, mother or SM.

It sounds like you don't like what is going on.

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Submitted by Maxwell09 on Wed, 07/05/2017 - 9:30am

Maybe it's because you were so ramped up when you originally posted but this whole thing comes off as jealousy. Perhaps you can clarify what you mean. What kind of events are they going to? Why does it upset you the kids don't do anything while they're their? What would you do differently in that situation? Why do you dislike their dad? Is it because he is a deadbeat who plays fun guy EOWE with his wife or is it for something else you haven't mentioned? In the future when you post be sure to state how you're feeling them explain to us why so we don't just assume you're being hateful towards him for no reason at all.

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Submitted by Aniki-Moderator on Wed, 07/05/2017 - 10:37am

If "acting like a man" means you are an opinionated macho weezer-head, I'd MUCH rather hang around with the "princess" biofather.

Those girls are not YOURS. They are the biological offspring of your wife and her ex-husband.

It sounds like the girls are being exposed to a wide variety of things and that's GREAT. This is a wonderful way to discover a love for something new and fun. Why do you have such a chip on your shoulder about them seeing/learning about a lot of new and different things??