Well, the problem has worsened. SD15 went to her guidance counselor and had a meeting with her mother and basically said she doesn't want to live in our house anymore because of the way I treat them. I will admit that I have been hard on them, but I am hard on my own BDs as well. I thought I was doing the right thing by "treating them as I treat my own". She says that I "give everything" to my BDs but her and SD5 I "don't give them anything". She says that when I first moved in I helped their mother, but now I "am no help". She says I embarrass her the way I treat her mother in public. She also said that I get mad at her mother when she does anything with or for her and her sister. Now, I have some rebuttals to this. First, I don't give my BDs anything outside of child support, not by choice, but by necessity. I simply do not have any money left over to buy extras for ANYONE, including myself and my wife. I am no help? I cook, clean, do laundry, pick up from school, yardwork, help them with homework, all the things dads do. So for her to say I am "no help" is an insult to me. She is no help. She has chores to do, which never get done. But that's besides the point. She said she is depressed and has considered suicide. I know that is not something to play with, but I swear, if you were to meet this kid, that would be the last thought on your mind. I am upset, and I am hurt. She is very immature for her age. She gets jealous when her younger sister spends time with her mother. She is very jealous and possessive of her mother. She likes to "snuggle" with her mother, tries to sit on her lap, etc. She cannot be in the house alone without putting on every light in the house. She left the burner on for 7 hours 2 weeks ago. I know I play a role in this problem, but it is not ALL me. Thanks for allowing me to rant. I don't know what to do other than to disengage.

Thanks for the advice and help