Ok, so I am new to this forum and have been a step father nearly 2 years now. I have 2 step daughters, 14 and 4, 2 daughters from my first marriage 11 and 7, and one with my wife 15 months. My question here is where do I draw the line on disciplining my SDs? When we were first married, my wife and I said that we would treat all the children the same. She was going to treat my 2 as if they were hers, and I was going to treat hers as if they were mine. We all know that is a great idea, but not a reality. My wife and I have many similar ideas to raising children, yet some are far apart. One of my issues with her is that she coddles her daughters and does not hold them to the fire when it comes to their responsibilities. I am the opposite. This has caused some problems. She says I am too hard on them. I feel she's too lax. How much is actually my job as a step dad to discipline them? Should I leave it all to my wife? I have been told by our therapist yes, let her handle it. I have a hard time doing so because I can see how the children are using that to their advantage and can manipulate situations.