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I think I'm losing my mind...

Toni 2980's picture

Hello co-step parents! My DH 4 kids (9,10,14 & 15) moved in with us almost a year ago. My life has been complete hell since. I get along with the younger two well enough but the teenagers are horrible. They lived most of there life with there BM and she did a really great job of screwing them up. BM was grooming the 14D to be her scamming off the system bar buddy. The girl is SNEAKY, mean, manipulative to everyone, she steals from stores, me, friends, sisters etc. All this was going on before they even came to live here. I 'found' a picture she drew in her room of her setting our house on fire with all of us trapped inside... SCARY. I found out the hard way that she peed on my tooth brush...yes, thats right, I put it in my mouth before I noticed somthing was amiss. I could go on for days about her...
The SS15 was stealing from his BM's purse & stores before he came to live here. Now he has been in and out of court awaiting his sentencing for arson! He and his idiot friends decided to tresspass in an abandoned building not far from our house and set it on fire. He is forever causing trouble and strife in the house. My DH has tried everything we can think of...screaming, taking things away, grounding you name it. They are both grounded now because of poor grades, the peeing incident, and court. At least when they are grounded I don't have to look at them. I really can't stand them, being in the same house as them is horrifying. Ahhh...that feels better already...thank you

KiwiGon914's picture

WOW I READ THE ORIGINAL POST, AND CAN RELATE, I HAVE SC (9,9,12,14) THE GIRL 9 IS WONDERFUL (SMALL SLIP-UPS), BOY 9 MAKES ALOT OF SLIP-UPS, CURTISIES FROM HIS MOTHER, AND BOY 12 IS FINE, NICE BOY, NOT DISRESPECTFUL AT ALL! GIRL 14! SHES MANIPULATIVE! SNEAKY, NASTY, JUST LIKE HER MOTHER, WE USED TO GET ALONG, THEN HER AND HER MOTHER BECAME FRIENDS...SO OUR RELATIONSHIP WENT SOUR. NOW ME AND MY HUSBAND FIGHT FIGHT FIGHT THAT ALL! I NEED HELP!!!!

AND SOURGIRL!!! YOU SAID IT RIGHT...Stepmother: the one with full responsibility and no authority. THIS IS THE TRUTH!!!!!

Toni 2980's picture

Oh, it is SO locked in my room now. I have to lock ALL my bathroom things in my room, or they will be missing or worse. I think it's complete crap that I have to feel like I'm a guest in my own home, having to carry my personal items in and out of the bathroom everyday. DH has made it a rule now that both teens have to keep all their bathroom stuff in their rooms now...we don't know what else to do. I will never be able to trust either of them again. I didn't think it was possible to be so disgusting.

KiwiGon914's picture

I KNOW ITS HELL, BUT ATLEAST YOU HAVE THE SUPPORT OF YOUR HUSBAND, I FEEL ALONE IN MY SITUATION, AS WELL AS, A STRANGER IN MY OWN HOUSE I FEEL OUT NUMBERED...