My ss was 14 when he moved in with us. He NEVER flushed either - which is how I know that he NEVER used toilet paper. Thank God and Congress (and my attorney) that I never have to see that PIG (now 38 and still daddy's widdle mayon) again!!

Print out a postcard and put it in front of the toilet or on the sink, someplace she can see it. That's about all you can do. She'll get it eventually. She can't say she forgot if you put up a sign.

When my sd forgets to flush, I call her back to do it, mind you she is 6, phew teenagers can be such a nightmare, not flushing at that age is strange though, I teach children to leave the bathroom as they would wish to find it, you need to get Daddy on side with this, I wonder if she flushes when she's at school? I would call her a dirty girl, and shout so and so has'nt flushed again, there is a huge turd in the bowl, I mean this is just laziness, so I would shame her a bit, good luck.

Whenever you find it call her to the bathroom to flush. If she is in bed make her get up. If she is with friends, tell her in front of them. Make it more inconvenient to forget than to remember. Also like the idea of charging but for a teenager it should cost more maybe a dollar each time. And increase the amount if she is still not flushing after two weeks. Really, this is very nasty and probably passive aggression and should be addressed as a serious issue. Hope your SO backs you up. No one should have to deal with a 16 year olds poop.

GROSS !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

sd19 came over for a visit with her bf when she was 17 and after she left, i see that she had left bloody underwear wrapped in a wet washcloth on the counter by the sink in the bathroom. stupid bitch. like i'm gonna take care of that mess for her. who the hell is even comfortable with other people seeing such a thing? it could have just as easily been her dad to find it! i threw the whole damn pile away and texted her that it was NOT COOL to do that shit. she's such a disgusting bitch.

This must be a sk thing. My ss17 & sd20 do this & I just find it so disgusting that they'd do that in father's home & the age they are! Can you imagine the uproar if we did something like that to the precious brats! Was really shocked and sickened after I realised what they were doing but it truly shows what they are like.
All husband said was that they are self obsessed and selfish.
Also the soap was always dry so I never ate anything of sd's making!

Got a lot to say when I am ready.
Thank God I've found this site.

She's not forgetting - she's disrespecting the whole house. What disdane she has for the people who feed her. Yes we ex-teens were weird back then weren't we?

Although the turd on pillow is tempting the simple expedient of making her go back and flush usually works. Once she realizes that she will have to flush no matter what she'll do it on her own. Even if she leaves the house for a weekend just close the lid and make her do it when she gets back.

Getting up from the computer, TV show or sleep soon delivers a message and the punishment is built right in.

My SD14 is the same ... bloodied stuff in the bathroom, toilet not flushed, and yet she's always giving my BS (9) heck if he forgets to flush. So tired; you know things have reached a breaking point when the basics of hygiene aren't being met. And the same with the internet: we turn the wifi off at night and you'd think we'd given her an electric shock the moaning she does.

Just like everybody else mentioned, My spouse and i was merely seeking joys by Mother Jane along with Kuan Yin, along with below she actually is giving answers to, just as if directly to everyone. Thanks to you too Doreen to be the actual messenger along with whatever you business folder printing :jawdrop:

So nasty. I agree with above posters. Interrupt whatever she is doing. Make her flush it herself.

When she wants to do a privelage, like going to a friend's house, tell her no, she can't go. She can't even remember to flush the toilet!

Hack into her Facebook account or her email account and send a photo of the evidence to all of her friends with a little note that says "yep, she forgot to flush the toilet AGAIN". LOL

Just kidding. What I've done is embarrass the Hell outta my SD in front of her friend. She had a friend spend the night once and forgot to flush. I called her AND the friend into the bathroom (she was 12 at this time) and said "Did your parents never teach you how to flush the toilet after you poop?" She was MORTIFIED and never did it around her friends again. However; will still do it now (she's 14) as long as none of her friends are around!

My SD13 tends to leave lights/tv/fans on all over the house. It drives me nuts so I make her get up and go turn things off. She always whines and says she doesn't feel like getting up. My response to her is that I don't feel like getting up and going to work the next day to make money to pay the electric bill either but I'm going to do it anyways...just like she is going to get up and go do what I told her. She never knows what to say to that. lol

Though this post was written 4 1/2 years ago, I just happened to find it for my very relevant situation today. THANK YOU for posting about the SC who practice this disgusting behavior. My 14 yo SD was been spoken to about leaving her stuff in the toilet without flushing. It is DISGUSTING! She has had her phone, tablet, music, everything taken away. She swears she flushes, but one can tell if an attempt has been made or not. I've even told her that she should have been potty trained by now. I'm at a loss!

I am BEYOND frustrated. My hubby doesn't know what to do either. She lives with us full time as her biomom passed away when my SD was 7. No, this is not something as a result of the mom dying. We've been to counseling for that. I feel the child is passive aggressive and just need ways to deal with it so my house will be more peaceful.

Thanks for the ideas above!

OMG - YES!!!! :jawdrop: I have been dealing with the same EXACT thing with my own SD17 (and her older brothers before her)!!! :sick: Camo - I can completely relate as my SD's bio mom passed away when she was only 6. And like many of the other posters above, I have been in the picture for 10 years and have done my best to be a good parent and enforce basic rules and hygiene habits. Her bedroom and bathroom are completely and totally disgusting. I won't let my DS6 and DS8 anywhere NEAR them.

I used to ask her to please clean her room/bathroom, and pick up after herself. Then I would get on her case and get more firm with her about it. She never did it. So, I have learned to disengage from her for the most part and let her live in her filth. I just shut the door to her bedroom and bathroom so none of the rest of us have to look at it. DH is a complete pushover with her and won't get on her case about either issue unless I reach a breaking point and say something to him about it. I mean - the rest of us don't deserve to be around her filth, and I'm sure as hell not cleaning anything for her!! I also used to do that when I first came into the picture. But then - a day or 2 later when I would go past the bathroom, it was gross again. F-that.

She also likes to leave lights on all over the house, doors unlocked (including the front door), dirty dishes and uneaten food sitting all over the place, unflushed toilet, used tampons and pads sitting around for all to see, etc. :sick: You get the idea. Bottom line is - 1 more year of high school, then she heads off to college. Once I'm SURE she will never be moving back in with us, both her bathroom and her bedroom will be completely gutted and remodeled.

All I keep thinking is, I tried....I REALLY tried. And I feel REALLY sorry for whoever she ends up with as a husband/partner because she will likely be a high maintenance bitch for the rest of her life.

Omg I thought I wrote this lol. My ss does this and now his younger sister does it! I think its a form of aggression honestly..

Omg I thought I wrote this lol. My ss does this and now his younger sister does it! I think its a form of aggression honestly..

I have No idea what he does in there- seriously it’s like an explosion and then he doesn’t flush.

even the 6 year old won’t use that bathroom because it’s a mess. 

How do we get him to flush and clean up after himself ?

its embrassing!!!! - how do we fix this ? 

I wish you luck.  Having had a stepson before and then two stepdaughters I found the daughters to be filthier than the stepson.  I never figured out how to get them to flush regularly.  Additionally they would clog the toilet (both of them) almost daily and neither would claim to have done it.  It always cans down to a coin toss.   What was gross was going into the finished basement after they had a sleepover or spent time down there and finding a clogged toilet from a week earlier.  The girls would know the toilet they clogged and use one of the other common toilets in the house to avoid cleaning it.  It got tot the point before they went to their fathers house I had to check the toilets to make them clean the clogged toilet first.  

No one their right mind would do such a filthy thing. Maybe it's their way of telling something indirectly, they may be filled with some unsettled anger or emotions.

Omg she sounds just like my 12 year old step daughter. She also talk on the phone until 4am with her boyfriend and make sure she screamed and jumped on the floor( upstairs) and wake the whole house up. She also never flushed he toilet and clogged 4 of my toilets within 3 days. What is that???