I am on the brink of leaving my husband. I simply cannot tolerate living full time with his son for one more second of my life. at this point i cannot stand the sight of him. my H makes excuses for his behaviour all the time and never backed my up, ever. for example he is rude to me, my BD even my dad and his gf. my H says he's shy, ha. his behaivour is ignorant, shy people don't mouth off. my h is not even working and has brought many debts with him so i am stuck paying for the house the bills the food etc. i resent every mouthful that his "shy" son puts in his mouth. only recently has my h made is son do anything for himself, but has ignored the items that i want done, for example he taught him to make fried eggs, but neglected to show him or tell him that he needs to clean up after himself. when i told him SS to clean the pan after himself (as i don't find finding a dirty frying pan on my stove EVERYDAY when i come home work very decorative) i came back in the kitchen to find the pan in the sink. of you would have thought that H would have backed me up, think again, he cleaned it for him!!!!!!!
a while back i took the position to not get involved and ignore him, i make no conversation other than excuse me when appropriate. i think that my resentment would not be quite so high if i was not paying for this joy.
about 98% of the arguments between H & W have been about the SS. I can't stand it, i tell my H that the only thing he requires his son to do is wipe his own but, and that is only because he doesnt want to, other than that h cuts the kids meat, hello he's 15. Bet you're wondering were BM is? she dropped the kid off to BD when he was 7 to live with her new bf. she comes around when she decides and my h wont' say boo to her. i told my h 2 month ago that i was having vacation the last 2 weeks in july and could he make arrangements with bm to have HER son since i have him in my house 24/7 (he has not friends and never leaves) so kid miraculasy is already at bm's before my vacation started so i'm thinking heehaa time to self. then open the door and there is ss coming home for a couple of days. ofcourse this was another fight with h as he did not even make the arrangements that his wife, currently the only working adult in the house, does not even deserve a vacation! did i mention the last time i had 2 weeks off was in 1996? i feel i am due. my h refuses to have him move to his mothers or even comprimise by more frequent and longer vists there, he completly leaves it up to the kid and the ex. we have only lived together for 14 months, and never even had a fight before that. now we fight all the time, about ss and money or lack of, sex is a distant memory and the house is up for sale. i told h that i want to go back to living the way we did before. me and my BD in one house and him and ss in another. i don't want to lose my husband but i cannot and will not have my house run by a child and his mother. any advice?