I'm about to start playing a bigger role as a step mom.   I have known my husband since I was fourteen.  We have a complicated history that includes him marrying someone else at a very young age because he was mad at me.

This is my first time on a stepparent forum but I have no friends or support system who understand the difficulties of being a SM. I have a 9 y/o SS and I’ve been with his dad since he was 3. His dad and i are now married with our own child. SS’s dad has always had partial custody (every other weekend and holidays), so it’s never really felt like there’s much structure when SS is with us... it’s like our house turns into a fun zone for him and my husband is wanting him to not be bored.