I have a 16 yr old SDm I have had her for 9 years.  I have a 9-1/2 yr old son, and my husband and I have a 2 yr old.  My son adores my husband, he is the only dad he has ever known.  For years my SD and I were close, and we saw here every  other weekend and more when she didnt have school (she went to school right across from where her mom lives) but her mom "took" her and we only saw her for 2-3 days a month for a few years and when she came back she seemed to hate me as much as her mom does, her mom has done some truly awful things and is a real piece of work.  When her mom had her she wa