I am new to this forum. I found it while typing angry searches in the google search bar. So I have been married to my wife for 2 years. She has 3 children, a 10 year old boy and 2 daughters ages 11 and 15. They can be good kids but they are so lazy that it makes me want to punch holes in the walls. We have tried reinforcing helpful and constructive behavior in so many ways, such as allowances and trying to talk them up, grounding them, taking phones, or just helping them with their chores or whatever is asked of them.