Ive been married for 7 years, both second marriage.  We dated for 5-6 years before marrying I have NO children.  My husband has two. A son who is 21 and is slightly asburger and a daughter 32 and she married with two kids.  I hate his kids.  I tried for years to make a relationship but his ex wife (who never remarried no ever even dated after divorce that’s how insane she is) manipulated them so bad and still does.  All the manipulation has been used on my husband so he feels sorry for his loser kids.  His son lives with his mother.