bm says she doesnt need the CS, and im confused

So BM tells DH that she doesn't need the child support

Dh says really because you are still taking my support for TWO kids and one moved out in may and you dont think it should retroactivate to the court date.

So I'm sorting thru this in my head:

This is the third time to re-establish support in 3 years (yeah SD going to college, then moving home, then moving out)

This time you wanted overtime, and bonus money

You went after DH to pay for everything you deemed appropriate

You again hid any additional income

In the last three years you've asked for dh to pay medical and dental.

However I have been divorced for 18 years. I have never taken exh to court

I only asked for money when I needed it

So what I want to say is BM if you aren't needing the money why are you reacting this way?

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Because she's a b...ch. Most

Because she's a b...ch. Most don't try to increase cs because they needed, they do it because they can and like to control the ex.

She may not NEED it, but she

She may not NEED it, but she WANTS it. Big difference!

But remember, from now on, when she asks for extra, he can confidently tell her "that's what CS is for"...if she tells the kids "daddy isn't paying for your whatever, so you can't go", he can turn it back to them and say, "actually, I pay your mom every month and last time we talked she said she didn't really need the money I send to her, so she should have plenty."

BM tried to go to court

BM tried to go to court asking for $2400 a month in CS - that is what she wanted. She got ordered to pay DH $110 a month based on the actual calculation and the NEED.

That still cracks me up.

I have to say that in my

I have to say that in my opinion if you have not held the father of your children responsible for supporting them then you have denied your children the security of knowing that their dad gave a shit enough to help support them and knowing that their mother gave a shit enough about them to make sure their dad was participating in their support.

People too often forget that CS is really about the kids and not the X-Spouse or oppostion bio-parent and whether the CP needs it or not is irrelevent.

We never needed a penny from my SS's SpermIdiot but we damned sure held his nuts to the fire to support his oldest child. Though CS was never more than a pittance we made sure every penny was paid and paid on time. Unfortunately we could not have the courts mandate that DipShit had to pay his own CS obligation to my SS. SpermGrandMa paid it for him. We also made sure that as the SpermIdiot added more and more out-of-wedlock spawn to his brood we protected my SS's right to an equity share of the SpermIdiot's resources and by extension the resources of the entire SpermClan.... since they paid DipShits CS obligations for him.

We never wanted our son to hear that his SpermIdiot and SpermClan did not care enough about him to support him, even if that support was rediculously and insultingly miniscule.

Sorry if I have a counter opinion but I believe it is a parents responsibility to set the example and that means holding the X accountable for supporting any joint children. PERIOD!!!!

I agree with this. I think

I agree with this. I think it does something for a child's self-worth to know that they matter enough to both of their parents for both of their parents to contribute to their well-being...monetary & otherwise.

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