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1dad6kids's picture

Submitted by 1dad6kids on Sun, 04/21/2024 - 5:21pm

"Quick" background 

DH & BM have a CO with dollar amounts for Support, and SS14'S extracurriculars. BM registered the CO with maintenance enforcement and they are enforcing extracurriculars that SS14 is no longer in. We had already gone to court to get the CO changed so MEO would collect the right amounts but the judge dismissed it. 

We cannot afford a lawyer anymore and still owe our last one thousands of dollars. So DH and I put together the paperwork to take BM to court ourselves. In it DH sets out why he wants to vary the order but also puts in an application to charge BM with contempt for violating the original order. 

For some reason I'm nervous about it. We always feel like anyone looking over the file would see that she's clearly a bad person, but DH has only won once. And that was after7 years of court. 

SS14 is with us, so I'm not worried about her taking it out on him like she typically would. But I'm worried that somehow this is going to result in things worse for us.

I guess if she says anything we always have in our back pocket that she let a known pedophile stay in her house with her and her kids...

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Lillywy00's picture

Submitted by Lillywy00 on Sun, 04/21/2024 - 9:06pm

So DH and I put together the paperwork to take BM to court ourselves. In it DH sets out why he wants to vary the order but also puts in an application to charge BM with contempt for violating the original order. 
 

Good!!!

I will say that's awesome you all keeping that BM accountable for her unsavory actions. 
 

Also, if you're representing yourself ... it might help to have a different attorney at least consult and/or review your documents before court proceedings.....if the judge is biased (many of them are biased against pro se clients) using every advantage available can give a boost in you alls favor. 
 

Also add to something in there that includes she is required to pay attorney fees. So you can have an easier time paying back your previous attorney. 

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Submitted by Rags on Mon, 04/22/2024 - 5:16pm

Take the pedophile card out of your back pocket and smack BM in the face with it along with the other stuff you are addressing. Go fully for her throat and do not stop until the Skid ages out from under the CO.  Even then, keep any residual pressure and leverage you have to keep her as under control as possible. For us, we have a large financial down side for them if they piss us off and overstep with SS.  They own $10K+ in their half of medical expenses for SS-31 that was not covered by insurance. That is their half.  We bill them every 6mos to keep our claim active. They get their fee fees hurt when they get the bill, ask us to let it go, and we tell them no and demand that they pay their bill.  They know if they get shitty with the Skid (now 31yo) that we will go after them to in court to collect. We attempted to collect via family law court before the CO expired, we were told to take them to small claims court. With penalties and interest it has progressed past small claims.  So, it just keeps getting more an more intimidating for them.

Will we ever actually sue them, probabily not. But, they get the bill twice a year and get really pouty every time.

Exjuliemccoy's picture

Submitted by Exjuliemccoy on Tue, 04/23/2024 - 9:25am

Are you saying SS lives with you full time? If so, request c.s. from BM and ask for it to be back dated. You may not get back c.s., but it doesn't hurt to try.