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Room Arrangements Update

1SKID3BIOS's picture

So last week I was battling with my DH because he thought my 18-year-old son who just graduated high school should move out to make room for our new baby (and more specifically so SD3, who is with us 50% of the time, wouldn't have to share a room with the new baby). As I mentioned in the other blog, DS18 is not a problem teen. He respects my DH and does what he's asked without backtalk. He will start college in January and hasn't been able to find a job yet and can't support himself at this time. DH and I went back and forth on this for several days until I finally let DH know he can leave instead of DS then. He knows it was not an empty threat.

Well over the weekend, DH came to his senses. He now is okay with SD3 sharing with our new baby (who is a girl). I think his daughter's excitement over it probably helped a lot combined with the potential of him losing everything over room arrangements. We went to a few baby stores that had baby room showcases. I showed him how everything could work. Now he even likes the idea of the girls sharing until they don't want to share anymore (i.e. continue to share even after my son moves out).

Okay, so you would think it would all be a happy ending, right? Well, DH and I also talked about changing the 2nd largest bedroom into the nursery/SD3's room since all of the baby items and SD3's items (changing table, dresser, crib, another bed,toys, etc.) take up a lot of space. We thought this would be acceptable because there would be two people in that room and the teens could have the smaller rooms because they don't have to share. Well, the 2nd largest room is currently occupied by my DD16. When she found out about our plans, of course she was totally against the idea. Now she's acting like a brat and doesn't want to move to a smaller room. Ohhhh....the drama. I told them all now that if they can't get it together then the baby and I will move into the Hilton by ourselves!

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purpledaisies's picture

I agree with you, when my brothers shared a room I got the smaller one and they got the bigger one. Just the way it works! Don't ask her just tell her at this point, this is what will happen. Perhaps let her paint her new room or something like that. Something cheap but something that she can lay claim to and make it her own. Just an idea.

That is what we are doing for my son right now, we are switching his room and he gets to repaint it. A gallon of paint is about 15 bucks!

alwaysanxious's picture

I replied to your last blog about this issue with DD. She will have to get over it.

overit2's picture

I think her biggest problem is most likely that she is losing her bathroom...and having her friends over isn't as fun in a "cramped" room. Do you guys have any other place to make into a "toyroom" area for the girls? How much difference are we talking in terms of space?

How big is the room your bio son is in now? Could the girls stay for a bit in the shared room of sd3 until your son moves out and then split?

I know everybody has to make sacrifices...but honestly I would myself PREFER for my 16yr old to have the private bathroom and space to get away. Teens are big on privacy, retreating to their rooms, bringing friends to the room, etc....and younger kids sharing a tad smaller room for a year or so isn't that bad.

Anywho78's picture

So happy it's all working out! Your DD will get over it...although I LOVE the Hilton idea Wink

herewegoagain's picture

Since WHEN do kids get to decide which room they take? Hmmm...We were not ever given an option. Simple.