To parents/ step-parents of 6 year olds...
I need to learn what are normal behaviors for a 6yr... I have never had to raise or live with a 6yr old child.
Do they noramally ask so many questions?
where are we going? what are we doing? why do i have to bathe? are we going to the supermarket? is this for me? is this mine? can i have that? what is that?
Do they prefer snacks and picking over a meal?
My SD6 can take up to two hrs to eat mac and cheese with hotdogs. But will eat a popsicle, pudding cup, yogurt, dry cereal, marshmellows, cookies all with in 15-20min intervals if I let her.
Are the able to efficiently and correctly whipe in the bathroom?
Sometimes my DH has to soak her undies b/c she doesnt whipe correctly. Although I have demonstrated the front to back motion (whith clothes on of course) many times.
Any answers will help thanks.
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I can tell you about my BD6,
I can tell you about my BD6, who I think is pretty average for her age:
She is not too bad with the questions. She does like to know about things that affect her, but she wouldn't ask WHY she has to take a bath. By 6, they should know that.
BD6 definitely would snack her way through the day, given a choice, but she can reasonably be expected to finish a meal within 30 minutes.
BD6 does pretty good with the wiping, unless she's having a problem with diarrhea or loose stools.
I think it's good for you to kind of get a barometer, to understand what behaviors need to be improved upon. (Disclaimer: I am by NO means saying BD6 is perfect, just represenative for her age, I think.)
Yes, she has only been alive
Yes, she has only been alive 6 years...they love questions.
They prefer snacking to formal meals...at least my son does anyway(he's 7)
ChooChoo is 7 and STILL has trouble with the wiping thing. SD is 11 and she will often complain about her privates itching or burning and it's because she isn't wiping properly. I think it just depends on the kid. When I was a kid, I never had an issue with wiping properly but my brother did.
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Thanks guys this is all very
Thanks guys this is all very good info.
Crayon yes she did have a problem wetting the bed before she came to live with us but we were able to correct that with in two weeks. She was being raised by BM's Mother and she used to sleep with her and they would even let her sleep with a diaper. I did keep the plastic on the mattress to aviod a bigger mess Thank the Lord b/c she did wet the bed at leat 3-4 times.
I guess she was never taught how to whipe but as I mentioned before I have demonstrated how to do the front to back motion and DH has told her that to do it at least twice to make sure she is cleaning properly. A friend suggested baby whipes but idk it can get pricey and maybe even messier.
After a meal took 2hrs a friend suggested a timer and that has been working I set the egg timer to 25min and put it where she can see and hear it but not touch it and there have been occasions where she beats the clock which is great.
She asks why does she have to shower but to find out where or what we are going to do next. It could be normal curiosity but boy im not used to all the questions lol. If i take out a skirt, she asks why is she wearing a skirt today. Where are we going that i need a skirt? Or if im at a red light why did you stop? If im going slow in traffic, why are you driving so slow? It's actually a little funny now that im typing the silly questions down. Geez she asks lots of questions.
Thanks again for all the input guys...
I'm not mean, I'm just honest...
IMHO That all sounds very
IMHO That all sounds very normal. But all kids are different.
I have had two different experences with kids. My Bioson was by far a more difficult child at that age. I thought I was going to lose my ever loving mind with my son. I would literally go into the bathroom and cry. I didn't know this at the time, but he had adhd. The kid was literally bouncing off the walls. He would climb on everything and thought it was very funny to jump off. We were in the ER so much that I thought they were going to call social services on us. He is older now, and he has become a much more docile kid. When my kids were that age they lived on fishy crackers and wouldn't eat big meals.
Now my stepson is 6 and he acts like a little adult, I think there are some issues there because I don't think this is age appropriate. But then again I would much rather have that than the experience I had with bioson!!!.
AT that age I think its hard for them to wipe effectively, so that sounds about normal.
SS6 isn't too bad with the
SS6 isn't too bad with the questions. I think he learned EVERYTHING btw the ages of 3 and 6 with all of the questions then. Now he thinks he's a know-it-all and loves to answer questions, LOL.
But he is very curious about what's going on around him. Like if I put on a hoodie in the house, he asks me where I'm going.
He has no problem wiping, but SD8 still has problems with it despite it being addressed with her.
SS6 is also a very good eater. We don't allow constant grazing all day, he could eat all day if allowed. He is still a slow eater though. He enjoys cutting up at the dinner table so we have to remind him to eat his food. Dessert is often a good motivator. The kid's addicted to sweets. Sometimes if he's anxious to leave the table to get back to playing, like lunchtime on the weekends, if he doesn't finish his food, we save it for later and he has to eat that before he gets something else.
I think the snacking thing is common, but at this point, it needs to begin being phased out I believe. It makes more sense when children are younger, they have small tummies that can't hold very much so grazing is practical. As they get older, gearing them toward waiting for meals and finishing meals is. I mean, they can't snack every 20 minutes at school.
With the eating she has her
With the eating she has her good moments and bad. She will fly through brkfst and lunch, then take forever with dinner. At first we would threaten to take toys, tv and or play time but that wouldnt phase her she would still take her sweet old time. Then i tried time out that worked for a bit but she got used to it i guess and that stoped working so i just keep rotating the punishments when she doesnt eat and im hoping that as long as i am consistant and she sees that there are reprocutions when she either doesnt eat or takes more than 30min
I read that children should only eat one table spoon per age so I make sure not to serve her too much and she does have her own kiddie plate, cup and bowl. Eating is a work in progress. Stepmadness i do agree to a snacks after eating we give her a snack after every meal i try to also opt for something healty like a sliced orange, maderin slices, a yogurt anything like that. But if she doesnt eat she doesnt get a snack.
I will just have to get used to all of the questions b/c it doesnt look like she will be stoping anytime soon. Besides asking questions she also likes to remind me of things and doesnt give me a chance to do them. Like i can never say come on time to cut your nails or clean your ears b/c she will tell me right away or ask me when am i going to. idk if all kids do that or its just a pet peeve of hers.
another habit that i have noticed is the my SD6 wants everything she sees you with(eating). If you want juice she wants juice if your having popcorn she wants popcorn or any other snack/food and doesnt let you offer her a thing b/c right away she is asking you for some but then when i serve her a meal she gives me a hard time to sit and finish it all in a decent time frame. I notice she does it more with my DH than with me.
I'm not mean, I'm just honest...
I use a timer now after a
I use a timer now after a friend suggested it and it has helped a great deal I set it for 20-25 min depending on what we are having or what I served her. SD6 knows that if it goes off and she isnt done something is getting taken away, toys, tv time, or she may get a timeout.
I just need to remember to bring the timer to restaurants because she is even worse there with the eating. Lately i just dont order her anything and we request a spare plate and my DH serves her from his bc we were spending the money and throwing out more than half the food away.
I tried bringing it back home and having her eat it as her next meal but that was just too much of an ordeal. She would take forever and eat it with disgust. What i do know is that if we are going to the movies afterwards or do anything fun then i will say if you dont eat your own meal you cant get pop corn or candy at the movies.
I'm not mean, I'm just honest...