First Spawn's Birthday
So today is the first spawn's birthday.
DF and I had a huge argument as to how this was all going to pan out and he chose to do his own thing. Fine - I have homework and class so I really could care less. He hasn't bothered telling me what is going to happen or what he has planned - so then am I to assume that I am not included in such plans?
Guess we will find out. I have a feeling that this is going to be the beginning of a fight....
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don't let it be a fight. this
don't let it be a fight. this day doesn't have to mean anything to you. i don't know your relationship with the skid, so maybe i'm wrong. if you are close, of course you should be included. if not, go about your day like any other day. i don't give a rip about sd's bday. i do have it marked on the calendar every year, but i actually only do that to appease her. i have all bdays marked, and she has an obsession with going thru my calendar every time she's here, so to avoid any bullshit drama, i have it marked. other than that, just another day to me!
No we are not close. The BM
No we are not close. The BM made sure of that, but whatever!
Like you say, I plan on continuing my day as usual.
I'm REALLY hoping this does not start a fight. But my DF is one of those who thinks I need to be there for everything, but doesn't let me know what is going on. I am a planner and do not like interruption, especially for people or things I do not care for. He was already upset with me because I told him his child's bday was up to him to handle. I tried helping and he chose to be an A$$ about it, so I handed it 100% over and I am not looking back!
i had to do the same thing. i
i had to do the same thing. i disengaged over 3 years ago. nothing i did was appreciated by either sd or fdh. so i stopped. i told him gifts for all occassions are his duty now, i am DONE. he didn't like that. wanted me to keep doing it. so i can keep getting snide comments about what i get her? from BOTH of them? no thanks. she doesn't get a bday cake anymore, and she hasn't gotten a Christmas stocking from us in just as long.
stand your ground. you were not told what the plans were, and you have your own plans. sorry dh, next time you should probably tell me sooner than an hour before. have a nice time!
I am on the path to doing the
I am on the path to doing the same thing with SS. He appreciates nothing I do, so tonight I am telling him I am done doing anything for him, and if he has a problem, talk to his dad (he's 18, he's an adult and can take care of himself)!