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abbey road's picture

BM hosts teen drinking parties, encourages sex, and is a psycho alcoholic. I have two skids sd16 ss15 bd14 bd19. Psycho BM lives dwn street from us. Kids have dis owned their Dad,and most of the time they are over at their moms. Can't hang with all my rules! Omg! They are totally overindulged typical entitlement issues. The parents do everything for them give them whatever they want and protect them from everthing. Never any consequences or disapline. They have no chores wouldn't do them any way. I have repeatedy told all the kids my bd14 is not allowed over there ever. Last spring break when she was only 13 she snuck out to a party and was drinking over there. My older daughter found out and now is called the Snitch for trying to protect her little sister. Been upset, pissed, stressed out all the time about it. His kids have always acted wierd around me. They resent me for setting rules and trying to get their lazy asses to do chores jus like I expect me kids too. I finally gave up when dad said I was picking on his daughter for trying to get her to take her own bathroom trash out. Now that she's a young women having her cycles i feel it should be her responsibility to take it out. She fought me tooth and nail about it and all that happened is I became a villian and she still would never take it out or do any chores unless asked. Now she is driving and today while she was visiting takes off to her moms with my daughter even after we told her she is not allowed over there! They lie or do what ever it takes to protect her! Now they are letting there son get his permit and he is consistently truent to school first period, gettin two DS and refuses to do his home work. But he is responsible enough to drive a car?! Stupid parents. I've already left and come back to my Husband three times and still things havnt changed. This is ruining our marriage.

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Disneyfan's picture

Stop worrying about the SKs and focus on your own kid. She is partying and drinking right along with the others. It may be a good idea to get her on birth control ASAP.

Why do you keep going back to this man? Being in my that home is not good for your daughter.

PetStr's picture

^^^^THIS^^^^^ Have all of them arrested for underage drinking and the BM for providing alcohol to minors. Maybe your own daughter will wisen up faster if she sees herself in handcuffs

oneoffour's picture

Leave this situation right now. And drag your kids away with you.
What has happened is the man you fell in love with his wildly opposing view on being a good parent is showing his true colours. The question is do you want to stay and watch the slow years-long train wreck (for which you will be blamed) or do you remove your children to a lifestyle that is safer? I would suggest at least 50 miles away so those kids cannot pick your kids up to party.

And report that woman's arse. Call the cops the next time you get an inkling of drinking. If it brings the end to your marriage drag as many of her offspring down with you in a totally legal manner.

just.his.wife's picture

Ok first off hell yes on calling the cops. When the cops drop your kid off to you from having been drinking, light her ass up!

Next time a skid drives off with your child, call the cops. You did not give consent it is kidnapping. Period.

Now that we have dealt with the legal crap. I have a few comments for YOU.

**Warning, I am a very blunt person. I do not believe in political correctness and some of my ideas/comments and quotes can be HARSH. Understand that I do NOT know you, this is NOT a personal attack, this is my way of trying to Jar you into seeing what is happening and fix it.***

The reason all this shit is happening is because you are letting it. Telling your kid no is simply not enough you are her parent. She goes anyway you show up with a cop snatch her up and drag her happy ass home. Ground the hell out of her. Public humiliation (such as a cop picking you up from a party) is a great way to teach teenagers.

Why are you allowing YOUR kids to stay in such a toxic situation?
You know your husband has no balls to prevent any of this from happening and yet you remain and YES your teenagers are going to learn bad habits from the skids.
You leave, fall for the pretty talk and promises of doing better and come back. There is no reason for them to change when you have proven time and time again that you do not respect yourself enough, or have enough spine to demand better.

YOu mom, need to step to the plate, get the fuck OUT of this situation if you want ANY hope of your younger teenager daughter to have a productive and positive future.

abbey road's picture

Thanks for the advice. Didn't sleep much last night. I do want to get out, I'm just worried about trying to make it on my own. I could ask my Dad to stay with him till I can get on my feet again its just so far away from my bd and her Dad. I've been unable to work for awile, I was diagnose with Fibromyalgia last year( probably brought on by all this stress). I don't see things. Changing with these kids, they are on their way to sef destruction and would like to drag my Daughter along with them. I'm done, I can't live like this anymore, I'm hating my life and feeling trapped. My Husband has agreed last year to move away we have been working on getting te house ready to sell. But I have my doubts about how long that will take, if he really means it at all. I don't think he wants to leave his kids down here with her. I can't help thinking it is just a matter of time before something tragic happens to someones child and no one stood up to her or did anything about it. When the shtf over there then the skids will have to come back to live with us, I won't be able to handle it! They are so far gone into the party lifestyle now. Sd gets good grades so she gets a green light to do anything! Sick of the stupid excuses!

ms_peterson's picture

I read the first few lines and stopped. Has anyone called CPS or the police on this woman?

abbey road's picture

I did call the Sherriff when I found out my Daughter had snuck out over there. They told me unless my Daughter is physically there they can't really do anything. They said I could remain anonymous if I was to suspect that teenagers are drinking over there. We have put our ears out for any 'part news' and on several ocassions have driven by there to see if we can catch something going on problem is they either are really good at hiding them , (mom turned her garage into a party room) so we think she is hiding them in there. The neighbors have called the police and when they showed up ss14 answered the door totally wasted. The cops made him call a parent because there wasn't any Adult and wouldn't leave until a parent showed up. So instead of calling his Dad who's 4 blocks down the street he calls his step dad who was 100mi away on bussiness trip. No one knows where the Mom was. Other parents who have caught wind of what's going on over there have also tried to call the cops. I don't want cps involved because I don't want to have to take care of skids who hate me and disrespect me!