SD 11 just doesn't care!! She is the most lazy person in the house and pretty flippin sloppy. She's even commented how I think shes my maid!! She said this to me because I made her empty the food catcher that was full of food in the sink one night after she did the dishes!! She half ass does what she does actually do, and tells her Dad she'll do stuff when he asks her and won't do it!! I have to make her take showers and brush her teeth!! Whats gonna happen when she starts her periods??!! Ahhhhhhhhh..Ewwwwwwwww......Noooooooooo..WTF do I do??!! I don't toloerate lazy ass people and from what I can see and have heard she doesn't get it from her Dad so...Thanks BM!! I asked my Mom if I was lazy like that, she said no! I just don't get it. I've even started telling her "NO" when she asks can I, can we, I want. I told her if she doesn't start helping out around here without being asked, told, yelled at, numerous times, just simply picking up after herself, Im going to start saying no because thats what shes telling me everytime she doesn't do something!! That kind of helped, she at least makes it look like shes doing something besides what ever she damn well pleases! DH is sooooo hard on SS 13 too. He even helps out waaaay more than SD and hes a freakin 13 yr.old boy!! I wish DH saw things from my perspective but I just keep my mouth shut most of the time anyway and clean up after the lil slob! Grrrrrr.........