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Living in two worlds....

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Submitted by Ani on Mon, 03/22/2010 - 5:03pm

I find myself living two lives.....one happy with hubby alone and at peace and the other one stressful and feeling unhappy when the ss13 comes over.......he makes the days he is here very streeful and nasty by creating lots of drama, bad behavior and gets his dad be in a bad mood.......I hate seeing the mess he makes and he doesn't pick up after himself and makes us repeat things over and over and he still does what he wants....its all about him......and only about him.......so I know have happy days when he is not here and happy days when he is not.....Does this happend to you too?

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Thetis's picture

Submitted by Thetis on Mon, 03/22/2010 - 5:23pm

Ohhh yea. How are you and your husband when it comes to house rules? Maybe its time for SS to start picking up after himself.
Take care.

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Submitted by Thetis on Mon, 03/22/2010 - 5:32pm

Ass gnats.... lol That brought some weird mental pictures! How big are these ass gnats? (I'm thinking Prawns from Sector 9)

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Submitted by Snowflake on Tue, 03/23/2010 - 10:23am

I know it is wrong... but that visual is just too funny!!! LOL Prawns from Sector 9 eating cat food LOL

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Submitted by starfish on Mon, 03/22/2010 - 5:38pm

10 & 13..... the term is derived from how they are always right up your ass.... and irritating as shit...... ass gnats

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Submitted by Thetis on Tue, 03/23/2010 - 10:28am

lol and those ones are big eh? I'm sure they'll back off in another couple of years when they become full fledged teenagers and everything "parent" becomes gross!

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Submitted by mimai on Mon, 03/22/2010 - 6:12pm

when im alone with my hubby the world seems perfect but when his kids are around.. it just turn upside down.. they are nice but its different.. as they say they are not ours..

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Submitted by Kb3Hooah on Mon, 03/22/2010 - 6:44pm

Do you think you could be happy despite his behavior? There should definitely be some sort of structure/rules and consequences for bad behavior in the home, if there's not already. But I hate to see someone else, whether that be BM, MIL, skids, coworkers, neighbor or whoever else, define YOUR happiness.

It's yours to have and yours to keep....but you have to *choose* to be happy regardless of someone else's behavior.

How often is SS there?

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Submitted by Marie09 on Tue, 03/23/2010 - 10:41am

I feel ya!! I love being around my DH and deeply enjoy our time together when its just us! we rarely fight and are always having a good time. Then skids come over and all that changes. DH is annoyed and short-tempered and it affects us. Then they go to bed and he relaxes around me. It makes me HATE when these kids come over, I count the seconds till they go back to BM!! DH wants to fight for full custody but I doubt we will make it if that occurs b/c I'm not having them ruin my house or my marriage!!