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BioHo wants that!

Aniki-Moderator's picture

The rehearsal is in 2 days and BioHo decided she wants a rehearsal dinner. That's right: 'Ho wants one. Not SD25. The rehearsal is a mere 50 hours away. 

Did 'Ho call DH about it? Well, she called. And called and called and called. No voicemail, no text. DH is sleeping and 'Ho doesn't make the list of those whose calls override the Do Not Disturb feature. She called me, too, but I don't answer calls from 'Ho and only return missed calls to my family members.

Did Aniki consult her crystal ball or call The Psychic Hotline? Nope. The Psychic Hotline is too expensive and I gave my crystal ball the rest of the year off. No peeking until 2022.

DH's mother just called. Sure, he was sleeping after pulling a 12 hour shift, but it's his mother. 'Ho called her exMIL, who answered, thinking it was an emergency. 

Then again, maybe arranging a last-minute rehearsal dinner for 30 people IS an emergency and I need more coffee. 

DH told his mother, "I'll handle it. Don't plan on a dinner." Then called 'Ho and, upon her sing-songy "hiiiiiiii!" bellowed, "I am NOT setting up a f*cking rehearsal dinner. MY WIFE is not setting up a f*cking rehearsal dinner. You want one, YOU set it up, YOU pay for it." ~click~

DH gets a little crabby when you wake him up during his beauty sleep... *dirol*

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caninelover's picture

DH handled that perfectly as usual.  OMG 'Ho just doesn't give up!!!

Aniki-Moderator's picture

'Ho is like a mutant cockroach that is immune to all roach sprays and would likely survive a nuclear blast. 

JRI's picture

Around here, the groom's family is responsible for arranging and paying for the rehearsal dinner.  BioHo was calling the wrong person.  Lol.

Aniki-Moderator's picture

Same around here. Two things...

  1. SD25 told DH she only wanted the rehearsal and most emphatically did not want a dinner. She and stbH arrived just this morning and head back back Sunday. Their time up here is short and they have plans after the rehearsal. So let's plan a rehearsal dinner with no bride and groom.
  2. DH gave SD money up front to use for whatever she needed; catering, flowers, cake, rehearsal dinner... That was all he could afford and it was several thousand dollars. He's tapped out.

'Ho called DH's mother solely for MIL to nag DH.

 

ETA: The groom's parents are deceased. He was raised by his grandparents who are also deceased. 

NotYourAverageStepMama's picture

Is my mom and I just had a conversation on the paying of the rehearsal dinner yesterday. My cousin who is getting married in April that we are not going to his wedding, there is drama surrounding this very dinner and well the wedding in general. So the brides parents told my cousins (groom) parents that only parents and grandparents in addition to the bridal party are to attend the rehearsal dinner. So my aunt told my mom that because this whole dinner has been planned without them and they are not allowed to include anyone else for this dinner that they aren't offering to pay for it like is tradition, but they may give some money towards it. However, my aunt is very frustrated because not only is there restrictions on the rehearsal dinner, but the bride invited only my aunt's siblings that like to party and drink, but not other siblings that are more involved in the groom's life. 
 

All this drama has made me SO happy Dh and I had a wedding with only 8 people in attendance and we are going on a 7 night cruise to Alaska instead with everything we wanted. The room with the window, the excursions we wanted, etc. It was such a happy day for us and loved how simple and small it was.

Aniki, your DH is so awesome and cracks me up on how he handles the drama and shuts it down. I am anxious to hear how everything goes this weekend and hope everything goes well!

Aniki-Moderator's picture

DH and I are both of the opinion that all of this wedding stuff is a waste of time and money. Why must it be some big production?? The drama - blech! You and your DH were smart!

We are both looking forward to the day after the wedding and expect it to be a freaking circus with 'Ho as the Ringb!tchster. SD25 has been moaning and groaning (whining) about 'Ho "turning MY wedding into HER wedding". DH told her to say No to 'Ho or stop complaining. SD's "going along to get along" is costing her.

NotYourAverageStepMama's picture

We loved our wedding day, didn't break the bank, no drama, and we get the honeymoon we wanted without also breaking the bank.

Hahaha, that is hilarious! Well SD is old enough to decide what she can live with and if she regrets how she let BM take control and turn it into the wedding BM never had, that is on SD. Would suck for that to happen, but it is what it is!

Aniki-Moderator's picture

It sounds ideal!

SD25 is the only skid who is getting along with 'Ho at the moment. SS19 is either at work or in the garage working on his car - anything to avoid 'Ho.

ESMOD's picture

When my OSD got married, it was a quick affair given her impending date of birth... so nothing really formal.  After the beach ceremony, someone suggested we all head to a local restaurant.... so we all went.

We offered to pay for the bride and groom and his parents... well.. BM piped up that as the father of the bride... we should pay for "everyone".. including her and assorted hanger ons that we really didn't even know.

To be honest, it was not a time when we had a ton of extra money... treating 4 people in addition to ourselves (when they ordered high on the menu with drinks).. was a pretty steep tab and all we were really able to do at that poing.

I loudly said.. "Oh.. no... it's the PARENTS of the bride BM.. you ready to pay your half of the full bill?" She shut the heck up.. and we paid the portion we said we would and left.. haha.

No.. honey.. you didn't pay a dime for any of it... no we are not paying for you TOO.. no.. we are not paying for the groom's cousins and sisters who were hoping for a free meal.

Aniki-Moderator's picture

Don't you love it when a person(s) offers up someone else's money? SMDH

ESMOD's picture

Yeah.. especially when it is the bride's side of the family that pays.. not just the father you gold digger.

My YSD is getting married next year and they are going to do a destination wedding.. at this point, we don't think we are going to go.. not interested in visiting the area they are going to.. and no interest in being in another intimate setting with his EX (my DH doesn't want to go.. I would probably grin and bear it for YSD).

We have decided we will have a vacation with the couple at a later date... !  

The bad thing is I'm sure his EX will try to get her BF to walk SD down the aisle.. 

It's the funniest thing.. she is just a drama ridden person.  I saw a post she put on FB talking in the dripping honey words about how perfect the guy is for her daughter etc... and then I see a post back from the fiance's mother.. basically gushing back.  Well, I've heard a bit about BF's mom too.. and while I don't think she is HCBM level of conflict.. I think she has it in her (she was mad that her son relocated so my YSD could take a great job.. even though his new job there is even better..said YSD was selfish).  But, I told my SD that I was just waiting for the gloves to come off because those two women are going to be at each other's throats one day.. haha.  She said she didn't disagree...hehehe

Aniki-Moderator's picture

He did ignore 'Ho, as did I. That's why 'Ho called DH's mother. In DH's world, no vm or text means it isn't important. 

Aniki-Moderator's picture

That would be a day for celebration. But SS19 still lives with 'Ho.

Stepdrama2020's picture

Dang she is amping it up for the BIG day. 

Cannot wait for the post wedding blog. Have fun and enjoy the bioho drama from afar.

Aniki-Moderator's picture

She certainly is. A little bird-tender told me that 'Ho got extensions. *shok*

Stepdrama2020's picture

Like hair extentions?

Hope it isnt windy  Wink

 

ndc's picture

We ordered in pizza for my rehearsal.  I got to eat what I like!

Aniki, I wish you strength to get through this circus, and I look forward to hearing about 'Ho's antics.

Aniki-Moderator's picture

Thank you, ndc! I need it. My nerves feel frayed. We are dreading the possibilities. Maybe 'Ho won't be too awful.

 

 

Bahahahahahahahahaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa!!!

MissK03's picture

Ho is such a leech.. geez!! Your DHs response always make me laugh. 

Good luck with the wedding antics! 

shamds's picture

A low class uneducated person of nothingness but needs to fake she is this big special fancy upper class refined member of society. Happens in malay cultures all the time.

people from uneducated poor families need to show off with expensive dowry and fancy weddings.

reminds me of hubbys nephew, ex-fiancé family was dead poor and had no money to pay for a wedding, malay culture is bride and groom have separate wedding reception and thousands of people invited and spend on average $20,000-30,000 per ceremony which in monetary gifts are lucky to get $1000 back. 
people rock up with a family of 10 pigging out on food and give $10 cash to bride/grooms parents etc

anyways, the ex fiance family says we want the dowry to be $11,000 blah blah blah to be given upfront and bride to be will use it to pay for her sides wedding reception.

you'd think if you're dead poor, don't extort the groom.

my husband is quite well off with a 6 figure yearly salary and yearly bonus is 5 figures and often 3-6 months pay as he works real hard. I literally flew to his country Wednesday, married that friday and reception Saturday and sunday to airport for our honeymoon. 
there was no dowry, no demanding of gifts (frankly hubby gave me and bought for me many things in private I didn't feel compelled to show off), I didn't need to extort money off him. But to shut his sisters up for all the "we must follow cultural crap" he bought a lovely necklace for me that matched a bracelet for my birthday. 
 

we had a simple garden wedding ceremony where my cousin demanded a main table with the vip's when my own parents didn't request one and were happy the vip guests got special seats which is customary. When my cousin found out he wasn't getting special seats and he wasn't dictating my wedding, his whole family including his wifes family that i was close with all claimed they were busy and working that weekend.

i cut off contact that day and my cousins wife works same company as my husband and saw him a few times real sad how bad the relationship is and her husband knows how alone he is that any family drama, there is no me to vent to but his stubborn ego means he refuses to apologise. 
 

big fancy weddings don't cover up the fact you're low class poor and horrible people. It also shows you lack confidence and self esteem to be who you are.

my husbands asian exwife extorted my husband pre wedding and she comes from an uneducated poor family. Hubby marries me, a Eurasian western university educated woman from a middle class family in a first world country in a simple ceremony and unlike exwife, is and never will max out his credit card monthly. We live a simple life. Exwife hates that and still tries to fake her superior crap. Its ignored

Aniki-Moderator's picture

Too true. 'Ho is low class and horrible no matter what she wears. Can't begin to imagine her in some $$$ dress runninh her trashy mouth. *bomb*

Aniki-Moderator's picture

Shok

I'd have to be in super stealth mode. Cameras and cell phones are BANNED. Anyone seen taking pictures or even using will be told to leave. Ridiculous,  IMO. There are legit reasons for people to need their phone. *unknw*

And I don't wanna break my phone! LOL

TheAccidentalSM's picture

It never ends, does it?  BioHo is a scheming horror.  

To be honest, if the wedding was in my city, I'd bow out of it completely.  Covid is rampant here.

shamds's picture

To attend any of my skids weddings. They're horrible people, exwife is batshit crazy who referred to me as the half naked christian whore despite she had an affair with a married man whilst married to my husband, her family are a bun h of nutjobs that engage in black magic and see witch drs.

skids burnt any bridges with me or my 2 young kids with hubby who don't even acknowledge hubbys kids from the exwife. 
 

bring on the shitshow and hubby complaining how awful it was and me with my snarky response that he was stupid enough to go to it knowing what kind of shitshow it would be

Aniki-Moderator's picture

I understand your reasons, but they are not mine and my husband did not "guilt" me. None of my skids are a problem at this time. It's all BioHo. 

TheAccidentalSM's picture

And by going you will bring much entertainment to all of the STalkers.  Thank you for your sacrifice.  *diablo*

advice.only2's picture

Hopefully after this you guys get a break from Ho and her shenanigans...this all just sounds so exhausting.  

notsobad's picture

Oh man, SS (30) is getting married this summer. Neither SS or his wife to be have asked us for anything but SD (32) has dropped a few hints wondering what we're "doing" for them. Which means that BM wants to know how much money we are contributing to the wedding.

None of your damn business.

The wedding itself should be fun, BM needs to be the centre of attention at all times and it'll be hard for her to give it up to her son and his wife. I shall sit back with a glass of wine and enjoy the show!