I mean either way, I guess I would be annoyed by BM going because it is not her grandmother. I hope she doesn't cause any scenes or anything while you are grieving your loss. My uncle's ex wife tried to go to his grandmother's funeral two years back and our family asked her not to attend. Luckily, she actually listened and did not. We had seen enough of her at their daughter's funeral two months before. 

Today (Friday) is a memorial service for Husbands brother in law.

Might see Feral Forger SD23 (or not, shes not telling) and since still no driving, its up to Toxic Troll (who currently starts work later for the after school program) and her good graces to do FF Transport.

EGADS. I just hope no FF and no TT. We will be going with B/M SD16 together.

Have some bail money set aside.

Granting you loads of patience.

Eff off Friday because here I am at work with not much to do. Waiting on one person for a meeting (any time now....). The building is practically empty. I'm going to go chat with my manager but can't leave until this person (above me who needs my reports) shows up. She is legit busy so there's at least that. I'm out of here in 1 hour 45 minutes and I am counting down.

Sigh...YSD will be with us this weekend. I'm going to get busy being outside doing things all weekend (thank goodness for goo weather).  

And eff off to the deer for eating all the fall flowers off my "deer resistant" plants. My THIRD try with deer resistant varieties - so far herbs, lavender, one other kind of bush, and prickly plants have survived. So there's that. They are plant vacuums, seriously. I need to deer spray them more often.

Food for a crowd...don't know if I've ever made crowd food other than lots of cheese and a variety of crackers.

Eff off to Covid.  I'm just getting over my second round of it in a year.  An unwanted yearly tradition.  It better not become a yearly tradition.  Eff off to the lingering symptoms, the coughing, the fatigue, the weakness, etc.

Eff off to allergies which I'm having in addition to lingering symptoms of Covid.

Eff off to the anxiety and panic attacks that are accompanying the other symptoms.  I think it may be tied to perimenopausal symptoms.

Eff off to my car and the mechanic who is going to fix it.  I was driving my son to school last week and my car didn't want to shift gears. It's a manual transmission.  I managed to get it home fortunately but it refused to go into reverse when I got it in the driveway. I got it in neutral and let it coast down the hill backwards into my parking space.  I called a mechanic to come and get it.  They didn't bother to let me know that they were way behind and couldn't even look at it until this week.  It's going to cost about $1250 they say, to replace the slave cylinder and they're going to replace the clutch because they might as well since they have to remove it to replace the slave cylinder, which is in the bell housing.  Oh and they can't actually start on it until next week and I'll get it back the end of next week if I'm lucky. 

So for the past week,  probably all of next week, and possibly part of the week after, I will be driving my daughter's car, which means I'm back to driving to two different schools that are a few miles apart and dealing with traffic at two schools.  

Forn- getting takeout tonight so I don't have to cook.  Thinking about getting Subway.  

That's something that I miss about funerals here - after it's over, everyone just drifts away. There's no gathering afterwards. It just seems so cold and empty. 

When my Dad died, his sister absolutely took over (I think she needed to keep busy - she doted on him) and made enough  sandwiches to feed an army and brought an enormous quantity of the most delicious sausage rolls (her local baker is a culinary genius) with the most buttery flaky pastry that I have ever tasted. I can still taste them today. 

Get someone(s) to ride herd on BioHo.  We did this with all the difficult people at YSS funeral and the wake afterwards.  It worked for us but then none of the problem folks were BioHo.  *diablo*

F0rn

Where I come from the entire community turns out for a funeral.  As an example, if I was an acquantance of Aniki's at work, I would turn up to the funeral and sign the book of condolance.  I might not go to the wake afterwards but that would depend on how closely we worked.  Where I live now its not as normal.  I found out when I went to my friend's granddad's funeral and I was the only one of her friends to attend, which was slightly embarassing. *unknw*  In my home culture everyone who knew my friend would have gone to the funeral and might have brought their families too.

Food for large crowds:  This is one my mom taught me years ago.  Chili con carne served with rice and garlic bread (I know, this has nothing to do with chili but its easy, cheap and filling).  She used to make it when my dad did a lot of socialising with his job and would often bring people back to the house after a night out.  She never knew if he'd appear with 2 or 200 so she kept a freezer of chili to be able to deal with the crowds.  [I would have told him to shove it but it was a very different era.] 

My office is having a tailgate potluck party with "Football foods" in 2 weeks. I am not a football fan so I am looking for a recipe for those foods that you would eat at a tailgate party or football party. Any ideas? I like to cook so I look forward to bringing in something yummy to share. 

I miss food. I miss a cocktail.

F-Off to:

• Not being able to lose 30Lbs in 12 weeks while eating stuff that tastes amazing and having an end of day coctail or 3 every night.  I love being under 250Lbs for the first time in about 5 years and will keep on the program.  The day I hit 185 I am going to commit to a great bottle of Tequila, a huge slab of Prime Rib, and butter saute'd bourbon mushrooms.  Only 6-8 more months to go. And... DW looks incredible after her 20Lb weight loss in the same 12wks.  Though she always looks amazing. She is one of those genetically blessed specimens who keeps her shape and looks incredible at a wide range of sizes.  I am a lucky man.
• Though I suppose the above bullet can double as both F-Off and fOrn Friday. I miss food.  The meals we do get to cook and enjoy, once a day, are very good. And the low carb baking that DW does with the program packets is amazing. But... I miss not having to think about normalizing my blood glucose levels, staying on plan for losing weight, and ... I miss food.

Enough of my whining. Have a great weekend STalkers.