I agree! On all accounts. I think it's important to be sensitive to your partner's feelings and needs, BUT that there needs to be an agreeance on how often. Compatibility is important. I do think a marriage can survive without it and if my partner needed that our marriage is based on so much more than just sex. But I mean hey, it's a pretty great thing, and we both like it.

DH offered a sexless marriage for my feelings, he took that into account. Definitley didn't work out that way on account of him being perfect as f***. *dirol*

Ours has definately tapered off due to age and now raising younglings AGAIN!!!!  Most of the time we are to tired or to busy or whatever , maybe one of these days we can get back in the swing( I know it's in the closet somewhere lol)

I will say that I think sexual incompatibility IS a reason to end a relationship. However, I don't think it is an immediate dealbreaker.

Just like with any other issue in a marriage, if sex is no longer where one partner needs it to be, then there has to be discussion and compromise to suit both parties. If both parties have exhausted their resources (or one party refuses to see an issue and won't offer solutions, or the other party refuses to accept any compromise outside the established norm), I think it is perfectly acceptable to end a relationship. Otherwise, you're just offering up the opportunity for someone to cheat.

It isn't fair to tell someone that you're disappointed/appalled that they ended their relationship due to sex. Sex and intimacy is what makes a "coupling" different from a friendship. It's certainly not the only thing, but it's a pretty big component - and one component that we are willing to throw entire relationships away on if we find that someone isn't faithful in that arena. The three big things that almost everyone universally agrees on being "dealbreakers" are abuse, drugs, and cheating. Sex is a major component in a relationship - even if you aren't having it - and we condemn people when they end relationships because it isn't "good enough" for them but also when they cheat when it isn't "good enough".

Sexual compatibility is so very important. I'd argue that it is just as important as financial, geographical, career drive, and family expectation (e.g. kids) compatabilities. I don't understand why we downplay the importance so much in American culture, other than we can be prudes about the subject. You don't have to get it on every minute of every day, but you do have to be on the same page.

On the flip side, I have several friends who put up with far too much from their partners because they have serious skills in the bedroom.  

only spread her legs to have a crotch dropping (3 of them)

Before that she was sorority sister town whore.

Now she is the "church lady, MOTY and pillar of Podunk NY"  StepDaddyBigBucks BETTER be content rubbing her enormous, boatlike feet with an occasional peck on the cheek of her highness.

I can say I fell into category 2.  After I had kids, I didn't want sex at.all.   I did about 5 years of straight breastfeeding, I pretty much cuddled all day, and when the kids were finally asleep I wanted me to myself.  I also had 3rd degree vaginal tears with both babies, the first one in the rear the second one in the front. They say it's ok after 6 weeks, but it took years for sex not to hurt.  Though I would suck it up and put out, it was not fun and I hoped that it wouldn't last long.  DH would play mind games with me and put naked women on the computer where I could obviously see, and my feelings would get hurt, however I could have cared less what he did with himself in the shower.  Once I healed, I did a total 180, DH to this day blames it on me turning 30. 

However, kids do change things...but to me it almost makes it more fun (i will explain) when all the kids are alseep and everything is done it does sometimes feel like a competition as in who can finish who first...kind of like a duel or something (showdown at the ok corral) after all the things we have fone through and continue to go through i thank my lucky stars we are that compatible 

My exH bragged about all the women he had.  Yet, with me, once or twice a year.  If I was naked or scantily dressed around him he would literally look right through me as if I was his sister or a buddy in the locker room.  He's admitted as much after we were divorced.  I have no idea why but it was frustrating as h311.  Mainly his drinking drove us apart but even without that I would not have stayed in a basically sexless marriage.  It is sooooooooo lonely.

When DH was married to BM1, she was a sex is for making children only sort of gal.  Still is.  Well they had a son and a daughter and she literally told him that's it, they don't need sex anymore!  DH loves sex so it really was the marriage breaker for them.  Plus they got together young so I think they grew apart as well.

One of the many things I love about DH is that he wants me every. day.  He looks at me with love and lust in his eyes all the time.  He'd have it 24/7 if our busy lives allowed it.  After being with a man for 16 years who could've cared less, it is a very welcomed change.  DH and I have very fun, exciting and wonderful nooky time.  We both say we're the best each other has ever had.  I consider that a great compliment considering DH was in his mid 50's and more than experienced when we met!

Sex is important in a marriage, but isn’t everything. 

In my first marriage, the only thing we had in common was sexual compatibility.  I really didn’t like the guy as a person, and I don’t think he really liked me, but we were both a bit freaky.   But it wasn’t enough to keep us together 

My dh’s Ex used sex as a weapon. They were fairly sexless, which was a huge contributor to the demise of their marriage. My husband is a really good looking guy, and when he got tired of it, he stopped paying attention to her. 

Now DH and I are together, it is great!  We are both freaks who are also partners in crime and best friends.