I'm trying my best to chalk it up to SO just being excited that SD is here and that GUBM didn't screw him out of a visit. But. It is really hard.

He keeps using typically exclusionary language. Like telling SD that he expects this and he expects that. No WE expect this of her. Telling SD that painting the apartment will be a daddy/daughter project. No. It is a family project because it benefits the family. Telling SD that this is HER house when he and I agreed that language was problematic and that it is OUR house. Meaning our family lives here. And yes SD is part of that family but it is NOT her house! Telling SD that if she wants anything, anything at all all she needs to do is ask and be will do it for her. Telling me to give input but talking over or interrupting me when I do. And to top it all off: calling both SD and me "hon".

F*ck!! It hasn't even been a day!

I am his partner. Not her. Don't equate us in your head or in your language, SO. And this is a guy who got all miffed when I called him "boo" because that's what I call the dog. All of this is problematic and I don't know what to do. We have counseling on Monday so I can definitely address it more thoroughly then. But. I don't know what our therapist is like in matters like this.