Summer fun
*Hi Steppers!
Thought I’d share a couple of hilarious BM requests that happened recently.
BM and the skids live about an hour and a half away from us (by way of background.)
About 2 weeks ago, SO gets a series of texts from BM letting SO know she’d rented a place at the beach last minute for an overnight (and about an hour away from her in the opposite direction from where we live.). Great! The skids love the ocean!
But of course that’s not what Crazy wanted to share. Instead, after booking the place, she found out that the oldest, now 16 and with a summer job, couldn’t leave until almost 9 pm.
so these frantic texts (about 20 over two days, as well as a handful of calls he refuses to answer as he deals with her only in writing unless it’s an emergency), was to DEMAND as the FATHER that he DO THE RIGHT THING (emphasis hers via text) and drive 1.5 hours to the eldest skids work (literally at the end of the BMs street), pick skid up, then drive skid to the rented beach house another hour away, drop skid off with BM and the other skids, and then drive 2 hours or so back home at 10 pm at night.
Oh, crazy pants! You are so funny.
After a few (texts about being a deadbeat, things died down.
Until this last week’s DEMAND. She informed him that per the CO he gets two weeks per year with the skids (which we were surprised she even had a copy as she seems to not ever know what’s in it), so he MUST take the skids starting this Sunday. Of course, he must drive the oldest 1.5 hours each way to drop her off at her minimum wage job (which we are proud of her for getting, but it will cost more in gas and time to drive her for a 4 hour shift than she will make), plus he works and can’t be driving during the day to get her there when she works at the end of BMs block and bike rides to her job. Then the middle one is starting field hockey practice so she will need to be driven there too.
Again, so very silly. As she did not read the apparently recently found CO very well, there is nothing about crazy pants dictating when he will take his vacation time with them and certainly nothing about her choosing it. Much less dictating what he will have to do with the vacation time. But of course, he is again a deadbeat and horrible father. And again, the crazy multiple texts over days, late night calls, followed by more texts about how she must talk to him accompanies all this.
This is the same woman who has literally with held the skids during agreed upon visitation at a whim. We don’t make complicated vacation plans because we can’t trust we will get them.
And this summer, with the eldest having a job, he has worked around her weekend work schedule to get her to work on time. But to do it almost daily, for a week’s worth of four hour shifts, where he would have to drop her off and pick her up, driving at least three hours for that four hour shift while he is working is just stupid.
He will take the deadbeat claim.*beee*
Hope everyone else’s summer is drama free!
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LOL your DH should tell BM
LOL your DH should tell BM what is more important me going to work and paying your CS or driving the kids around to their games practices and minimum wage jobs. This is just ridiculous!!
She's a piece of work and
She's a piece of work and glad that your H doesn't entertain her nonsense. She has some nerve trying to dictate when she should take them for vacation and requesting that he drive her to work. It makes no sense financially and its time consuming.
Keep up the good work of standing your position, she's crazy!
Ugh, my SO has a crazy pants
Ugh, my SO has a crazy pants ex that wants to dictate our time also. This past weekend she screwed herself and I found it hilarious! SD started cheer so on top of practice and all that she has extra activities that BM thinks she just can't miss (even though they aren't mandatory). So this weekend involved yet another "last pool party" for her cheer group. BM also tries to make every single thing overly significant. Mmmmkay....SD just missed my son (her little brother's) bday the last weekend we were supposed to have her for a "last pool party" for this group. How many "last pool parties" are there going to be. SO told her sorry we have plans already for the family so she won't be going. BM throws a big freaking hissy fit and insists on taking her. SO had planned on getting SD back after our plans but BM misunderstood and thought "he didn't want her" so she made plans for kids to come to her house after. Then the next day were pictures for cheer so even if we did get her back it would be basically to sleep and then go right back for pics. BM was like well Simpleton can do her hair for pics and SO was told her NO b/c he wasn't getting bitched at when it wasn't right so just keep her plus it wouldn't make sense to drive an hour out of the way to pick her up to basically have her sleep at our house and go right back. Then BM starts whining about how she had plans on Sunday and now she can't go....hmmmmm....well maybe if you hadn't insisted on SD going to a NON MANDATORY event on OUR time and then made additional plans b/c you can't read text messages you wouldn't have screwed up your own plans. She also likes to throw around the "you moved 30 mins away, not me" BS. Also, any time SO doesn't put "SD FIRST" meaning above his entire family he is a dead beat dad and not wanting to do extra driving when it makes no sense for an event that SD didn't have to go to makes him a terrible dad. She contradicts herself constantly. In one of her messages she said that SD shouldn't be punished for being a COD and she is giving her the most normal life possible and not treating her like a COD. Barf!!!! Seriously, she IS A COD and pretending she isn't and trying to put her above EVERYONE else isn't making the situation better or teaching her how to deal with being a COD. If she didn't want her to deal with being a COD (victim status obviously) then she shouldn't have gotten divorced. You don't get divorced and still act married to coddle your little victim COD. Ugh, these freaking crazy pants BMs really are something else! BM always expects SO to do ALL the driving b/c he choose to move! Even when it is ridiculous like you in your situation. I was proud of SO for telling her that next time SD has a NON MANDATORY party/etc during his time and we already have plans SD will be doing what we do as a family and missing whatever super overly significant event that BM feels she has to go to (basically wanting to control SO's time with SD).
I feel for you!
It’s just incredible how these women behave. They have a need to alienate everyone with their poor behavior.
I feel for you also! They
I feel for you also! They twist everything to fit their agenda and use the "best interest of the child" BS. The other problem with women like this is they make other women look bad. We are not all like that!!!!!