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Submitted by BabyKat on Wed, 03/02/2011 - 6:15pm

I've been a step for years now, and just found this site, so I think I shall use it as therapy and vent some stuff I've never really gotten to talk about. Probably random crap nobody cares about, but if it makes me feel better, hey whatever!

My first step disappointment was my 2nd day with my stepdaughter. After dating for a few months, my then boyfriend/now hubby wanted me to meet his 4 yr old daughter. He brought her over and we took her to the park where she and I played on all the equipment, I contorted myself to fit through every tunnel and crevice she beckoned me through, we laughed our guts out and became fast friends. Until the next time dad picked her up, that is. Apparently mommy straightened her out about daddy's friend, so I was met not with the laughing bubbly little girl of the day before, but with a girl who couldn't stop crying, wanted nothing to do with me, and just wanted to go back home to mommy. And I've been the bad guy ever since!

There are times when I actually weigh it out in my head - if I practiced a lot and managed to throw the perfect punch, say breaking her nose and busting her lip at the same time, would it be worth getting arrested? Never gonna happen because I'm one of those people who considers yelling, much less brawling to be beneath me, but I ACTUALLY think about how great if would be in my head! Dirol

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Submitted by Totalybogus on Wed, 03/02/2011 - 6:19pm

Sometimes I would definitely say yes. Here a simple battery is only a misdemeanor and you get a $250.0 fine. HELL YEAH!

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Submitted by BabyKat on Wed, 03/02/2011 - 6:34pm

Everybody's gotta experience the town slammer once in their life, right? I need to let myself live a little!!!

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Submitted by BabyKat on Wed, 03/02/2011 - 6:36pm

I think this ended up in the wrong spot. I was commenting on Totalybogus and $250 fine. Love it!

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Submitted by Hopingforthebest on Wed, 03/02/2011 - 6:37pm

Can relate! The first few months when I first met Skids was AMAZING we had soo much fun until it started to bother BM and then the "I don't like you cuz momma don't like you....." and the distance. And I consider my relationship with my two SS pretty good but there is a wall that they put up. I try to stay positive and be thankful for the most part but there are days that I wonder what it would have been like if BM hadn't influenced/contaminated our relationship..could have been sooo much closer.

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Submitted by BabyKat on Wed, 03/02/2011 - 6:43pm

See, this is why I love this site. All these years I've felt like I must be doing something wrong or the wall would have gone away. But, maybe that's just the way it works. Like, "I can't like you too much because that would be betraying my mom."

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Submitted by wriggsy on Thu, 03/03/2011 - 8:01am

Last summer, I had the perfect opportunity to end up in jail! Crazy lady came into my house and gave me a royal cussing and said "Let's end this right now" while trying to get me to stand up...apparently, SD had been filling her head with who knows what and Crazy Lady was accusing me of "abusing" her daughter.

I really should have called the police and reported her and let her end up in jail, but DD and SD were both there, both visibly shaken, and DH and I have spent YEARS trying to get SD to understand that you don't solve problems with violence.

So...there I was, getting cussed in my own home, striving to be the "bigger person" while Crazy Lady acted like the nutjob she is.

The worst part is that my DD gets to listen to SD tell their friends (same age...same school..same grade...some same friends) how Crazy Lady "told me off" and "put me in my place".

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Submitted by BabyKat on Thu, 03/03/2011 - 7:20pm

Wow. You have more fortitude than me. I would have been out of my chair and escorting her ass TO AND THROUGH THE DOOR. That's MY house. I don't even let BM in my house (not that she has much occasion to show up). Actually, I WISH she'd do something, just so I'd have an excuse!

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Submitted by skylarksms on Thu, 03/03/2011 - 10:18am

Grrrrr - I remember the first weekend I was to meet the skids. Too bad NN (numbnuts formerly H) had told BM they were going to meet me that weekend.

BM decided to go and get a PUPPY a couple hours before we picked them up. SD was so upset that she had to leave her new pet that she cried and had a "stomach ache" the entire time until NN finally decided to take her back home.

That pet lasted until BM took both skids out of school for a month long vacation (including Disney) without letting NN know they were even going anywhere. BM got rid of the puppy instead of boarding it, like a normal person with a family member who happens to be a pet would do.

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Submitted by BabyKat on Thu, 03/03/2011 - 7:14pm

LOL! "Like a normal person with a family member who happens to be a pet"! Love it. Our BM is the highly competitive type, so anytime we do anything exceptional for the kids, we can just sit back and wait for her to try and outdo us. After several years of being begged by SD for this pet or that pet (she had a gerbil and fish at our house), we decided to get a puppy (not because she begged, but because we accidently fell in love with one - neither we nor BM were dog people). DH talked to the kids over the phone and told them we had a surprise for them when they came that weekend. They come, meet our Yorkie pup, mom calls Saturday morning and they tell her the exciting news. By the time the kids got home Sunday evening, BM had a new puppy for them at her house! It's actually kind of humorous to watch BM. It's like, are you really that insecure? Sad thing is, BM is still not a dog person, so her medium size dog spends most of its time in a crate (it might poo on her floor) and only goes outside to potty. They feed it people food and never take it out to the park or for a walk or anything, so the poor thing is fat and neurotic! Of course, that's okay because she's told the kids that indoor pets live longer than outdoor pets, so she's somehow doing the right thing. God I hate her!