My DH had some missed calls yesterday am from SD- and admittedly he is horrible with his phone- I'm kind of surprised she didn't call me though, as normally she reaches out to me as I answer.  I'm guessing she was in a really bad head space. 

My MIL texted last night that our grandson got badly burnt on his arm at the babysitters and was having skin draft surgery yesterday.

To note first off: He is headed home this am and did well.  

I'm waiting to hear the story from SD-but we called MIL yesterday and needless to say she was pissed and went on her toxic roll demonizing and trash talking SD.  MIL goes w/the wind, and since BIL and his GF are now living there also, she's switched 'sides' and now everything SD is the devil.

According to MIL, SD had gone out w/friends, I'm thinking this was maybe Tue night?  Her fiance was at one of his friends.  SD used a new babysitter and the sitter only had her number.  Apparently, the sitter was cooking w/baby on her hip and he somehow got badly burned on his arm.  Sitter called SD and SD did NOT leave her party and likely assumed it wasn't bad-or maybe she was too intoxicated to drive.  She apparently didn't pick the baby up until the next morning, and even then didn't take him to the DR until she talked to her mom and the mom suggested she take her and that CPS could get involved.  

So between his burn time (sometime Tuesday evening)-he didn't go to the hospital until sometime Wed.  Surgery was last night.  

I can't even go into all that MIL said bad about SD- and YES I agree, she messed up ROYALLY!!  I'm sure she is feeling extreme guilt.  I"m hoping to go see her today.  I'm hoping this is a turning moment and learning parenting lesson....I feel sick for the baby....as much horrible things MIL said about SD, I just want to see her and give her a big hug and cry with her.  

KIDS having kids, especially when they never wanted children-this is the result.  Again, not sure how/if the details are correct because MIL is known to lie when she wants to make someone the 'enemy'.  Of course SD isn't that trustworthy either.  

I just feel overwhelmed with sadness....I really hope SD and her guy take their family and leave MIL's place-as long as she is there MIL will make sure she is reminded daily/hourly what a bad mother she is and will inject nothing but insecurity, doubt and guilt from here on out.  She will never let this go.  

I know it's bad, I know SD messed up, I know SD needs to prioritize her baby more. I also know she IS a much better mother then her mom was, I know she adores this baby and shows a lot of nurturing and joy and care.  She's working part-time and in school...while her fiance is always 'job searching'- yet somehow MIL is defending the fiance even about how he does everything w/the kid (NOT TRUE).  I'm trying to ignore MIL's noise and words you guys, it was VILE.  

We absolutely do not have room for them here, I hate to say it but SD would be better off going to her moms.  I'll update when I talk to SD.  Please keep them in your thoughts...or throw some good energy please.  We are all distraught.  He won't be out of the woods, because skin grafts can get infected and have complications.