GROWING INTO BEDWETTING??? Is there really such a thing???
Ugh. SS10 has wet the bed since I've ever known him. So since he was seven. Now he is 10 and still wetting the bed and now isn't it great that his younger brother has started!!! SS8 has always been dry!! Maybe had a couple accidents cause he waits until he can't hold it any longer and it "leaks" out on his way to the toilet... but this past weekend he wet the bed both nights!! Hid the evidence which would have been great to find 2 weeks from now... but what the hell!??!!?? How does a kid that never had a problem with it all of a sudden have a weak bladder or sleep too heavy??? Is it just me that thinks something is seriously wrong here?????? I have nothing to do with these kids. Don't know their doctor or even live in the same city so there is very little I can do. I'm just furious that SO accepts it that he's just growing into it!!! It makes no sense.
Another thing to add to the always growing list of why I can't stand those kids. Both of them now wet the bed and don't say anything and go about their day without showering. SO doen't want to embarrass them so he doesn't check the beds in the morning. WTF?!??!?!
I hate how this relationship is turning out.
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I don't know your situation
I don't know your situation but is there any way there's any kind of abuse going on with them? Kids don't usually start wetting the bed out of nowhere. Sometimes kids will start having accidents if some trauma is happening with them.
I have honestly thought of
I have honestly thought of that.. now how do I bring that up with SO?!?!?!? Here is his ex wife living with the guy she had an affair on him with and I'm supposed to suggest maybe the possibility of abuse?!?!?!?
My other problem is that SO is such a pushover when it comes to his EX that even if I mention it, he would never say anything. I'm convinced even if he felt that way to He wouldn't say anything. Never wants to rock the boat in case she comes after him for more money.
I don't know. It just seems very odd. Something isn't right. Whether they don't like it at our house or something is going on at their main home, something isn't right. They are already very anxious kids for their age. Something has always been a little off.
I've been looking all over the internet since this last weekend when we found out that SS8 has "grown into it" and nowhere does it ever say a child will grow into it. Nowhere. If it was common I would have an easier time accepting it. But knowing it's not and that SO just accepts it for what his EX calls it really pisses me off.
Here is why I'm so frustrated
Here is why I'm so frustrated with SO about the situation. If he sets an alarm for 2am and wakes them up to get up and go pee... dry beds in the morning. Why doesn't he set an alarm without me telling him to you ask!???! I HAVE NO F%^KING CLUE!!!! Why doesn't he want to help them stay dry!?!?!?? It is a constant struggle for me to wait and see if he's going to do anything about it on his own without me making him. They aren't my kids and I don't even like them.... but I don't want them to go through that every night!! It is clear by them hiding the wetspot under their made covers and the soiled pajama bottoms under their beds that it is embarrassing for them.... why the hell don't their parents take them to a doctor or find out ways to help this?!?!?!?!!??!?!
It is more than frustrating. It is very disappointing. Not in the kids. The parents.
I'm told SS11...grew into it.
I'm told SS11...grew into it. Something about the tube that carries the urine not keeping up with his other physical growth...but he was about 7 at the time and I was told that he would grown out of it very soon...as his body caught up. He's 11 now and the only progress is in the size of his pull-ups. Your husband should take them to a dr. If there is no abuse, which he should confirm, then this is likely psychological...for attention, maybe??
I've already tried asking him
I've already tried asking him to take SS10 to the doctor as he has wet the bed all along. Their 10 year old wets the bed and the only thing they have ever done is take him to a councellor. Neither parent ever went back for the follow up session to see what the coucellor found out.
These kids need doctors, but their parents aren't taking them. I won't so much as watch them for an hour by myself so taking them myself is completetly out of the question. We don't have a Mother/Son relationship like that. They have a mother. She is just too busy with her own life to be bothered with theirs.
I am however going to buy an alarm clock for their bedroom. Waking up in the middle of the night seems to fix things. Their dad won't do that for some reason... so I will. These kids need help.
There is actually a chemical
There is actually a chemical that is released in your brain that slows your body functions down. Some children's beau.s take linger for that to develop.
Food allergies also create problems- I.e milk, dairy etc.
Sometimes it is triggered by stressful situations.
Try limiting fluids before bed. Try eliminating milk.
Don't embarrass or humiliate them. That doesn't work
I have never nor would I
I have never nor would I embarrass them about it. When they hide it though it does become and issue because it is essentially their responsibility whether they can control it or not. They are both old enought to take apart their bedding and wash it. Not as a punishment, but as their responsibility. Same if they spill a glass of milk. It wasn't their fault, but they still need to clean it.
It seems it isn't up to me to limit liquids before bed. Since SS8 didn't have this issue until recently, he would constantly gulp down a whole glass of water before bed. And SS10 (the one with the exsisting wetting issue) always was allowed to bring a full glass of water into the bedroom with him in case he got thirsty!!! These are not things I would allow. You need to remember I am just venting and asking for opinions... there is still nothing I can do about any of this unless I want yet another fight on my hands because of these damn kids!
If it were up to me, those kids would have an alarm clock in their bedroom to wake them up in the middle of the night to use the washroom. That usually fixes it. But since it's not up to me.... they wet the bed cause for some reason SO won't set his alarm to wake them up.
I am at the point where I won't let it happen again. If SO doesn't set an alarm and try to help them not have an accident, I will be raising hell. It's gone on way longer than long enough. He is their parent. It's time for him to start parenting.
They get up and walk and take
They get up and walk and take care of their own toileting needs. It's just the waking up part they need help with.