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My mind is sooo overtaken with my hatred towards his kids that we don't have sex much anymore.

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Submitted by baseballgirly on Fri, 09/07/2012 - 7:01pm

Call it what you want it... I hate his kids... makes me feel less love for SO... less love makes me crave less sex.... less sex makes him mad.

I wonder if it's fair that I bring it all back to him and his kids?? I dislike them intensely. I find them disgusting and gross. Thinking of them coming or even being in my house makes me feel gross. He wonders why I don't want sex as much anymore... Ugh... because all I can think about is your gross ass fat lazy kids!!!

Disengaging or doing ALL of the housework???

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Submitted by baseballgirly on Thu, 09/06/2012 - 7:35pm

Since I've completly disengaged, SO has been very supportive of me keeping my space from his kids. He understands that not everyone is going to think his kids are the be all end all and want to be around them and hang out with them. That said, he's been keeping them out of the house when they are here, but now he's doing jack shit for chores around our house!!!! WTF?!?!? I didn't see that one coming!!! The weekends are when he does any form of his share of any chores (I still do more as I have more spare time with my job) but now he's cut himself pretty much down to nothing!!!

Why is it expected???

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Submitted by baseballgirly on Tue, 09/04/2012 - 5:56pm

I know that everyone loves their own child more than others, but....

why do all parents think they can plop a stranger into your life and expect you to love them like they are your own!?!?!??

I have a dog and I don't expect everyone to love him like I do!!! He's MY dog!! Not theirs!!! I don't think it's much different with kids except kids are a bigger pain in the ass because you can't lock them in a kennel when they're pissing you off!!! Wink

If it's working, don't fix it!!

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Submitted by baseballgirly on Sat, 08/25/2012 - 2:59pm

It's been some time now since I've completely disengaged from my boyfriends 2 boys. They are 9 and 11 and really good kids. I just don't want to be a part of their lives or them a part of mine. Sad thing to say, but I've harboured some pretty deep resentments towards them about various things and it all came to this. It works. It may not be even vaguely close to a life I would have envisioned at any time growing up, but for us in this situation, it seems to be working. We may still have little hurt feelings here and there that it couldn't just be easier...

Dammit!! I couldn't do it!!! Just a vent.

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Submitted by baseballgirly on Thu, 08/02/2012 - 11:48am

After days and days of fighting we were finally able to sit down and talk. It is much nicer to chat instead of argue... but I knew, I just knew he'd tell me everything I wanted to hear!! AND I WENT FOR IT!!!!

I do love him so it's hard to just walk away. And he did tell me he understood and I'm really hoping that he gets just how serious I am about hating his kids because I want to move out... I hope that tells him how serious I am and I'm not just exagerating or trying to push buttons.

I'm sad to leave SO, but sooo freaking happy to NEVER see those 2 boys ever again!!!

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Submitted by baseballgirly on Tue, 07/24/2012 - 12:33pm

Breaking up isn't the ideal situation.... but I can't get the joy out of my head at the thought of never having to see those two kids ever again. I have so much resentment towards them I am ultimately blaming them for ruining my relationship!!! We never fought about anything but those 2 damn kids!! I hate them and everything about them!!! I hate the time SO spends with them. I hate the room that is wasted for them to be here every 2 weeks. I hate how much they eat. I hate how crappy of a parent my SO is. I hate how fat their cheeks are.

Told him I'm done

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Submitted by baseballgirly on Tue, 07/24/2012 - 8:10am

History always has a way of repeating itself so how do I get it in my mind that this will ever get better if I've been miserable right up till now?? SO says it's my poor attitude that is setting us up for failure. But I've been hopeful many times before just to end up extremely disappointed. Why would I still think positive when it always ends up negative??

Why are women on this site signing up to be a free babysitter?!?!?!?

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Submitted by baseballgirly on Sat, 07/21/2012 - 8:05pm

It seems now that it's summer, there are more and more posts about stay-at-home-step-moms. What the hell would EVER lead you to that life?!?!?

If my SO had his kids and he couldn't be home with them for some reason, you'd better believe he'd be finding a babysitter!! Never mind staying with them all day and all week... I don't watch these kids even for an hour!! They are HIS KIDS and I am not in this relationship for his kids at all. That visitation time is for him and his boys... that's what it's going to be!

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