Calendar with visits? HELP!
Sounds stupid, I know. But I'm wondering the best way to show the days/nights spent with us on a calendar? I have to have this to the attorney by tomorrow morning.
We go to court a week from Monday for modification of custody and CS. Currently it's 80/20. We have 20. However, we don't really. Skids come over when ever they want and it's always been that way. Which is fine. Until she opened a CSS case asking for more money. So we obtained an attorney and filed first in family court in order to get visitation percentage changed to reflect what REALLY happens. We finally got her response and in order to have all the text messages between her and I arranging pickup and drop off times admitted as proof, the attorney says *I* have to file a reply to her response. It's the only way to make sure the texts and emails between her and I are admitted as evidence. If we wait until the court date, the judge could throw them out as hearsay since I'm technically a 3rd party (which is what happened the 1st time we went to court). I'm the one that usually picks them up for weekends because my DH works 2nd shift and in order for them to come over on Friday nights, that's how it has to be. We get along for the most part, until DH puts his foot down about something and then it's my fault. WTF Ever. I don't care. She can think what she wants because all I care about is our family over here. The life we have and make for us and the skids.
Anywho, I could go off on tangents about her and her idiot decisions and lies and two facedness. Is that a word? LOL The point is, I need to have the calendar months showing when we *should* have them and when we really have them. We currently keep track on a gmail calendar but I don't want to print that and all the other stuff I have on there. My mom seems to think that I should print a year calendar on one page and hilight with different colors. Way too difficult on such a small scale. Isn't 1 month per page fine? Why does it have to be so difficult? I was fine with my way until my mom opened her mouth. :?
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I keep track on a monthly
I keep track on a monthly calendar. I found colors to be too distracting, so I use + signs and X marks for added/missed days. Then at the end of the month I add up the total. It's actually a lot more complicated because of our situation, but that is the basic approach.
I would use her initials or
I would use her initials or our initials on the calendar. That is how I kept tract of the HUNDREDS of days we had them extra each year.
I would also add it up at the bottom of the month. 9/21 so I could see at a glance.
All it did was piss me off in my case. But, I had it in black and white if we ever did want to take her back to court.
Good luck with your court date
Are you any good at Excel?
Are you any good at Excel? Documenting it there and turning it into some nice pie and bar charts is very impactful in court. This worked for a friend of mine.
If not, I would use a monthly calendar, one month per page with a total/summary as suggested above. AND I would create a page with all 12 months on one page with a summary. To make it simple for the eye, color code the days that you have SK with one color and leave the rest blank.
This is not only my personal but professional opinion. Not a lawyer, but have some good marketing and business skills. And I recently sat on a jury where the blank calendar days versus color thing won the case.
No matter what you do, keep it simple and visually strong with data to back it up.
Keep it as simple as
Keep it as simple as possible. Anne Boleyn has the right idea. You will only have a few seconds of attention to this info from the judge.
So here's what I did. I just
So here's what I did. I just a page for each month. Because we sometimes only have 1 skid at a time, I didn't want BM and her attorney getting anything thrown out because she could prove one was with her or something. So each month has a yellow hilight on days that are scheduled and then initials of the skids on the days they were actually there. Also, at the bottom of each page I put totals for Scheduled Nights vs Actual. Hopefully it's sufficient.