5 years and no progress
I need a way to vent that is outside the immediate family. I sometimes feel if I talk to the few people I call close outside the family that its just complaining. But no one can really know what I'm going through because they're not step parents.
I absolutely love my fiancé. We have been trying to get married for the past 3 years but I got pregnant the year we wanted to get married then I had surgery the next year and my fiancé needed surgery last year. We met online, talked through texts for a month, met for a whole weekend and decided to move in a week later. He left his wife in may because she cheated on him with the neighbor and he caught her. We found each other in July and met face to face in August all in 2008. it took a year for the divorce to go through and we got every other weekend even though we live in the same town as the ex.
For ex issues, whenever we have a family gathering, she puts an hr time limit... We bought him all his school supplies except for a backpack because we wanted him to pick out a backpack. She immediately yelled at my fiancé because it was the most expensive thing on the list. We get along with her fiancé which is good, but not like text if we need anything. She blames others for everything. She had said she wasn't going to visit her parents for Easter because they were going to their house too much. She stopped going to her grandparents house because they were friends with us.
The child that has brought me here is 7 years old. I've known him since he was my own sons current age. I even made a list on my phone of everything that bothers me about him. He's arrogant and will roll his eyes at everything. He will start fights between people. He can't do anything for himself. A small spill of his cup and he immediately asks nana (fiances mom) for help which is her cleaning it by herself. He doesn't clean up after himself, not his plate nor his room. He calls everyone stupid and dumb. There was a small time when he said he wanted to kill people. He's not aware of his surroundings and will constantly interrupt for something not part of the conversation. He will cross the street without looking and ill mention that then nana will say "oh it's ok I'm watching him."
I will have to pause on this entry as my child needs cleaned up from dinner. Hopefully I didn't run too many people off and some found some things they can relate to.
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So.... inside probably 10
So.... inside probably 10 weeks after his marriage fell apart he met you and a month later you moved in. Wouldn't you say that is a little bit fast?
Are you living with his parents? If so, move out and stand on your own 2 feet.
Getting married is easy. Courthouse, sign, promise done. THEN you will be married.
Weddings and 3 ring circuses can come later.
This little boy has no respect or common courtesy for you or anyone else due to his parents not raising him properly. Sorry. Your fiance should be leaping down his throat at every eye roll.
Next?
If I sound flippant and dismissive it is because a lot of your problems are brought upon yourself.Your future in-laws are too involved in your life. Fiance ALLOWS his ex to make decisions and won't stand up to her and your s/son needs parenting from parents who will not make excuses or use the child as a weapon. And that should start with your DH.