At conferences last week SS13's female teacher made a point of informing BM and DH that SS13 is disrespectful and rude to her and his other female teachers. SS13's male teacher said that SS13 was respectful and polite in his class. BM then chimed in that that's how SS13 treats her at home too.

Now I wasn't at conference but when I heard about this I was furious. SS13 was rude and disrespectful to me back when school started last fall. I nipped it in the bud (DH also backed me up too) and haven't had a problem since.

I have a plan to curb SS13's atittude problem. DH and I talked it over and DH thinks it's a great idea. So last night I spoke with SS13, DH was present too. My tone was matter of fact and I was very calm. I told SS13 the following:

ME: "SS13 I heard that your female teachers reported that you are disrespectful to them. I'm disappointed to hear this, since you're not that way around me. So from now on if I hear from your teachers that you are being disrespectful I will take a couple of days off of work and escort you around school to ensure that you are polite and respectful to all your teachers, not just the male ones. Do you understand?"

SS13: "Yes." *SS13 then looked at DH who nodded in agreement.*

ME: "Oh and your dad and I let your teacher know that I will to go to school with you if you are disrespectful. So everyone is one the same page. Do you understand?"

SS13: "Yes."

I'll keep you posted

~BettyRay