This probably shouldn't piss me off, but it does irk me, I can't lie.

DS6's parent teacher conferences were yesterday. First of all, I told FDH when we had about 25 mins left before we had to go. I told him because most often, if we are going somewhere, he thinks he needs to change his clothes and he brushes his teeth. We are almost always late to everything because he fucks around until way past the last minute, THEN he wants to change and brush his teeth. So annoying. So this time I gave him plenty of warning. He got a little attitude when I reminded him again that in 5 mins we needed to leave. He asked me why I'm telling him now and not in 5 mins. I told him because he always wants to change clothes and brush his teeth. He said he's not changing just for P/T conferences. WTF??? You have to change for a bday party, for going to the grocery store, and everything else, but P/T conferences are unimportant and it's acceptable to wear rags to those? Nice.

So we get there and the teachers were commenting on DS1 and said that when they ask DS6 what is siblings names are, he answers them that his brother is W and his sister is H.(DS6 is HFASD, so getting him to interact is a big deal). Well FDH was right there, so to avoid him getting all butt hurt that SD wasn't mentioned, I told them DS has 2 sisters but he never sees his other one, and they asked for her name and wrote it down. (DS has an aide, a speech therapist and an OT so they like to have things to initiate conversations with him). Well it wasn't enough that I clarified that he has 2 sisters, not one. FDH pipes up about how he has a nephew too, and his name is BJ.

Why this irritates me is because first of all, DS doesn't even realize that SD is his sister. He sees her a handful of times a year and that's it. He never says her name, never asks about her, nothing. If he never sees her, obviously he never sees her kid. He doesn't know BJ is related to him. He sees him 1-3 times a year, that's it. So even if they asked him about his nephew, he's not gonna know wth "nephew" means. He might recognize BJ's name, but he isn't gonna have much to say. He sees DS1 every day. He used to see DD19 every day and talks to her on the phone about once a week now. He KNOWS DD and DS1. He has things to say about them, he has memories of them and things to talk about. SD and her kid, no. Yes they are related to him. But they aren't really a part of his life, so I really don't know why FDH felt the need to pipe up about the kid when I already clarified that DS has another sister and I even told them he never sees her so he doesn't really realize she is his sister.(So they would know why he never mentions her).

Sorry FDH, but this isn't about SD or BJ. I wonder if he would be so quick to speak up about them if he knew just how much SD likes to blame on him?

Oh GOODY GOODY GOODY! I got my baby shower invitation today! I've been eagerly awaiting the invitation to go and worship the Golden Belly! :sick:

It doesn't say that it's a baby shower. It says I'm cordially invited to the Royal celebration of Miss (baby's name). Maybe not calling it a shower makes it acceptable that she's standing there with her hands out for gifts for the 2nd baby in 2 years AGAIN? I'm sure I won't have a sitter that day and one of the kids will probably be sick anyway. }:)