Justing venting.....
So a few days ago I posted a blog asking for advice. Today I think I just need to vent. I took the advice of others about talking to my MIL. However, she wasn't very responsive to what I had to say and well now she isn't talking to me at all. We used to get a long wonderfully and now she's been stand offish towards me. She told me that she didn't appreciate that my husband and I made the decision to let the kids go see their BM. It wasn't her decision to make so I don't understand why she's mad about us making the decision. It makes it really hard when you live under the same roof as her. Not to mention the kids aren't listening very well to their father or to me and instead are ALWAYS upstairs with grandma. My SS handed me a order form for something this morning and told me "you need to sign this now," with a very condescending tone of voice. I told him I wasn't going to sign anything for him when he was going to talk to me like that. He rolled his eyes and walked off to his grandma's room. What I really felt like saying was "Well if your grandma is so determined to raise you then maybe you should go ask her to buy this order for you." I really feel like I have no purpose here except to provide financial assistance when needed. My husband doesn't even make me feel very comfortable here either. It's a very empty, and lonely feeling and I guess my romantic side never thought it was going to be this way so early on.
The kids saw their BM and their grandparents from that side for the first time in 6 years on Saturday. They seem to be doing good but now that they have their BM back I feel even more not needed. I didn't think that it was supposed to be this hard getting married. I guess maybe I'm just really homesick for everything that I chose to give up for my husband and his kids. I know I know, I chose it was my decision but the way things are going is really making me regret the decision I made. I'm at the point of just giving up.
Okay I know that there's people out there that have it so much worse so I'm finished whinning.
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Oh please whine. It sucks
Oh please whine. It sucks to feel like we are second class citizens in our own house. Do you think you could persuade your husband to go to couple's counseling? How about getting different digs from grandma. Two women under the same roof is never a good idea.
Okay I'm still new to this
Okay I'm still new to this and don't know all the lingo yet. What is "digs?"
I've asked my husband to go to couseling with me, problem is he won't even go for himself when the VA tells him he needs to. So he's reluctant to go with me.
Just wish the financial situation would give a little so we could get our own place. I think that would help out a lot with a lot of the situations, but in the meantime it's getting to that point and dealing with the problems that makes me want to throw the towel in everyday.
that's what I mean by
that's what I mean by "digs." your own place.
Sometimes you have to offer two cards BJC. A counselor's card and a divorce attorney's card. Tell him to pick one.