When stepkids are here vs just my kids
Let's just say things are easier and less stressful. Luckily the kids are now going to part time in person school. But mornings are still a challenge. I feel like I run a daycare with kids who are really annoying only I don't get paid. Examples of just my kids vs his:
Just my kids: they get up, take care of themselves, are quiet, and don't bother me. BD12 plays on her phone quietly while waiting for the bus.
BD6 plays quietly with her toys.
His kids: SS13 comes into same room with BD12 and starts talking about the game she is playing, now I get to hear all about this dumb game, haven't had my coffee yet, just woke up, they are right next to me in the kitchen so I can't escape it. SS13 distracts BS9 who is trying to eat breakfast by all this talk about the game. I guess my kids know better than to talk about these games in common areas or play them together here, and will do this in their rooms sometimes but not around me because they know it bothers me. Also, they are not obsessed with them like the stepkids.
SS8 starts picking on the cat, looking over SS13 shoulder at him play his dumb game, starts chasing BD6 around. I tell him to entertain himself. He goes to his room and starts saying BD6 name hoping she will come play with him. She tells him basically leave me alone, I'll play with you later when you quit bothering me.
I'm trying to now enjoy time to myself but am I guess feeling sorry for myself that for the inevitable future I have to deal with this stuff. Minor annoyances, I know, but to me it is a big deal. Even short time periods with his kids are so difficult and are not a good start to the day. Sometimes I really don't know what I got myself into, even though I know they could be so much worse, they really put me into a bad mood and stress me out.