Well, it seems the post I did the other day didn't post, since I can't find it anywhere. So, let me do a recap of what happened.

On Tuesday, DF and I received notification from FSD's teacher that after lunch, she only returned to the work floor for 45 mins...she should have been on the work floor 3 & 1/2 hours. FSD's excuse- she was "stressed" and needed to rest or she would have a seizure...a big pile of stinky poo! She's been using this excuse now for everything. Now, let me be clear: FSD does in fact suffer from what is called pseudo-seizures due to a traumatic event she experienced. However, FSD now knows that if she says this to people (even when it isn't true), she will be able to get away with things.

So, DF and I had a discussion on what to do...We tried contacting BM but she was sleeping because she works 3rd shift. BM had given us "permission" previously to do what we see fit since FSD lives with us full-time. So, we were trying to decide how we should approach this. Keep in mind that FSD just came back into DF's life just shy of 2 years ago but has only been living with us now for about 6 months. So DF has been trying a nicer approach to FSD in the past but we both decided that we (mainly DF) need to take a stricter approach now, since FSD's behavior/attitude isn't getting any better.

So at dinner, DF started the conversation (he had told me that he would handle it, so I sat there just to show support to him) and began by asking FSD why she only worked for 45 mins in the afternoon. She jumped into a bull-crap story of how she began thinking that DF and I were going to "give-up" on her. Now, both DF and I have both told her numerous times that we will never give-up on her. So I knew right away FSD was trying to play the sympathy card...Thank goodness DF didn't fall for it either!

He told FSD he knew that wasn't true and he wanted to know the truth. Her response to that: "I don't want to talk about it." DF asked why and FSD said "because I don't like talking about it to anyone, especially family." DF started to tell her she needs to talk to someone... and what did FSD do??? She shouts "I'm not talking about this anymore, I didn't do anything wrong! I'm done!!!" And begins walking to her room.

DF was on her heels saying that she is to never walk away from him or disrespect him when he is having a conversation with her just because she doesn't like what is being said. FSD slammed her bedroom door...THAT sets DF off. He opened that door so fast I thought it would fly off the hinges. He told FSD that if she wanted to act like a toddler and slam doors, then he would remove her bedroom door and would begin treating her like a toddler. Now, DF did not raise his voice to her until now. He was talking to her calmly but she began to throw her little fit.

I am still sitting in the kitchen and I hear DF say to FSD, "give me your phone, you no longer have cell phone privileges since you are showing you are not responsible and you are childish and lazy. But do know that you will be paying for your phone." DF then looks my way and asks me to suspend her phone service, which I do happily :). I was so proud of DF at this point; he was holding his ground, even when FSD began the water-works (which normally always gets him). DF also tells FSD that she needs to stop living like a pig and needs to keep her room clean; and if she doesn't and he continues to see piles of clothes on the floor...he will begin throwing them away.

Now, here is the kicker...at this point FSD's phone service is turned off, DF disconnected the phone from our WIFI, but gave her back the phone because she does need it as an alarm for the morning and we set it so that she can still call DF, BM, her aunt, and myself...but no one else. BUT we notice that it still says FSD is active on Facebook....DF and I look at each other and ask how that is even possible (she doesn't have a computer or iPad) and then it dawns on us...the little shit still had her old iPhone and it was still connected to the WIFI!!! DF got up and asked FSD for that phone as well and FSD's response was that she left the other phone at her mom's...LIE!!! DF told her he knew she was lying and what do you know! She pulls the phone out from under her...What a little sneak!

But in the end, we took care of both cell phones and FSD is not speaking to either one of us...Oh well! She needs to deal with the consequence and needs to realize that she is almost an "adult" and needs to begin acting like it.

Yesterday DF said to me that he knows what he did was right but he doesn't "feel" right about it. This was the first time he has really had to "punish" FSD. I told him that I think he needs to talk with BM, since she is the one who can give him the best advice on how to deal with FSD. I must say...at first I really didn't care for BM because she took FSD away from DF when FSD was only 7 years old...but BM has agreed with how DF is handling FSD and has even backed him up when FSD has called her up saying how "mean" or "unfair" DF is. BM has even began to follow through with some rules we have set at our home in her home as well.

It will be interesting to see how this weekend goes. Normally FSD goes to BM's house on the weekends but DF and I had planned a little "family" outing and got tickets last week to go to an indoor soccer game tomorrow...We will see how her attitude/behavior is.