Hi..I need help explaining how I feel to hubby. The average I see his kids is once a month when they visit. (He still sees them every week on his way home from work and speaks to them from work who knows how often.)

I actually really really like my skid...even love them like my neices/nephews. The problem is this though...I KNOW they are his children with another woman and they are not Mine per se,...fine...but I just wish he'd sometimes call them up from OUR HOUSE, so I am kind of in the loop, or just can yell "Hi" from the background. Sometimes I say.."Hey, I miss ***, I wonder how she is"...and he'll say.."Oh, I called her before...she's good."

I swear, it's small potatoes..but it makes me feel excluded or like he has this separate life.

I think if it was OUR child together and she was at college, maybe one of us would call her and tell the other person immediately, or say "Honey, so and so is on the phone...wanna say anything?"

Hubby is not doing anything wrong by calling his kids without me BUT..I just wish he could be more mindful of how I feel..which I can't seem to make him understand......He just keeps saying..he's not trying to "hide" anything..it's just easier to call earlier in the day rather than later in the evening when he comes home. I'm not that upset about this..just disheartened. I am the outsider.