Disclaimer: It wasaround 24 years ago I was a young stepparent who took care of skids most of every other week while DH worked 12 hour factory shifts. I fed them, washed their clothes, packed school lunches, drove them to school, took them to dr's and haircuts and drove field trips and volunteered in their classrooms, bought their school supplies and clothes, let them have slumber parties at my big home, loved them and was kind to them. 

the whole time BM screamed an cussed anytime she saw me or if I answered my home phone or did not answer it, she left a message on recorder about how big of a bI*** I was and accuse me of things I didn't do, I responded to BM with kindness and patience and tried to listen to her screaming for words that made sense.  Then later avoided her. 

SD grew up and said the only reason I did those things was because I wanted to be better then her mom.  Said she didn't want to have a relationship with me or DH.  I sent her a birthday card, she let me know she would sue me if I contacted her agin, so I avoided her too. DH tried many times to reach out to her.  eventually he let her have her way. 

Well her second wedding was this weekend, to another guy.  DH and I were not invited.  

She has a Facebook post on my sons (her stepbrother's) Facebook because her new DH friend requested my son.  they posted a photo of SD and her new little innocent SD, both dressed up in wedding clothing, forehead to forehead lovingly. 

and ACTION!!!!!! (as if this was a movie and we are going to watch how this goes)