For the most part, I am disengaged. I only engage when I feel it necessary or when SS17 comes to me personally and asks nicely. Other than that, I am not involved with his schooling, swimming, or his relationship with BM and DH.

That said, I just watched a slow-motion train wreck last week. SS17 had been complaining about his physics class, and how the teacher was being rude, ("If I can do it, you can. I am not helping you. Figure it out" type language) and that he wasn't doing well in the class because he couldn't "get it". So, DH, who is a TEACHER, blasted the teacher in an email. My first problem is - WAIT! You are a teacher! Treat this teacher the way you would want to be treated by a parent! Second one was - WAIT! You don't pay for his schooling! Let his BM, who does pay for it, deal with it.

I was ignored.

DH sent the email with a BC to BM, who said it was fine. SS17 went nuclear when he found out! But, DH got SS17 the help he needed, even if he went about it in a really bad way. SS17 said he would rather have failed the class and given her a negative evaluation at the end of the year than actually get the help he needed! :jawdrop: What? And when was it decided that HS kids get to evaluate the ADULT TEACHERS?

So, SS17 was mad at DH and refused to come over last Wednesday. I asked DH if he was coming today, and he said no, that SS17 said he's not mad anymore, but is still upset that DH "hurt" him. I looked at DH and said "Are you kidding me? He's the kid. He's the one who was failing. You stepped in to fix it, which happened, and he's hurt?!? Are you kidding me?"

I am incredulous that my SS17, who I thought was a great kid, has now gone batshit crazy. DH said he doesn't think SS17 is coming over for the weekend either. Oh well, my food budget thanks him.

Just a vent. It's over, and it will be an interesting week. Tomorrow are Parent/Teacher Conferences at SS17's school, which are student driven. Oh to be a fly on the wall for that.